Hi friends! Happy Tuesday.
I’m SO excited to bring you this blog post today. I wanted to WAIT to write this until we had more family of four experience under our belt. Now that we’ve grown together and adjusted, I wanted to share the ways that we try to make our firstborn Maxwell feel special.
Today’s post is sponsored by Playtex Baby™. Playtex Baby™ is committed to continuously improving their products, to help get families off to their very best beginning. They’ve trusted me to be a #PlaytexMom (an ambassador of their #forbetterbeginnings program), and I couldn’t be more thrilled to partner with such an amazing company.
I wanted to start from the beginning:
Maxwell Meeting Trey
We were very excited for Maxwell to meet his little sibling. Max definitely noticed my belly growing and growing and we talked about how our baby was coming. He loved my big belly SO much that part of me was worried that he would be disappointed that it turned into a baby.
As you might recall from my birth story, one of those moments that I will cherish forever was being able to put Max to sleep right before we left for the hospital. I knew baby #2 was on his or her way. The contractions were mounting in intensity and getting closer together. I rocked sweet Max and as I laid him down I gave him a kiss. I knew this was the last time he would be my only baby and through a contraction, I lingered just a little bit longer than normal.
Drew and I went and had another moment that we’ll never forget, we met our second baby Trey that night.
We decided ahead of time that we wanted Max to come to the hospital and meet our new addition. When Max walked in, I scooped him up and took him over to Trey who was sleeping in the hospital bassinet. Max just kept pointing to him and saying “Baby! Baby!”.
This started our time as a family of four.
I know most mamas worry about how they’ll love their second born as much as they love their first. These little people come into our lives and they truly do have us wrapped around their adorable fingers. We had built our relationship with Max for 17.5 months, so how would we feel about our new addition? For me, the immediate rush of connection and love happened again with our second born. I think of it as: Trey is our first Trey. Special in his very own way.
Drew and I talked a lot about how Max would do when his sibling arrived. Our parent hearts wanted him to always feel as special as he is.
I wanted to share what has helped Drew and I still make Max feel loved and special even when Trey is taking up a lot of our time.
Max, The Helper
We wanted Max to feel involved in everything. Whether that meant crawling up by me when I was breastfeeding, watching Trey get his diaper changed or helping to cover him with a blanket. Max learns a lot from the behaviors that Drew and I model for him, so we knew he would be excited if we gave him small tasks that involved the baby.
Max is such a sweet little guy. We know he is around babies at daycare, so we’re pretty sure that is why he has understood early on to be gentle (of course he needs reminders). He takes his big brother role very seriously and we love to watch him grow into it. Nowadays he’ll grab me my breastfeeding pillow or spit up rag.
Max Getting Time with Each Parent
Whether it is a date with one of us away from home or who plays with him at night, we each get our Maxwell time in. We have family time after dinner until Max’s bedtime at 8pm. Drew or I will shower Max with attention while the other one rocks/holds/sways Trey. We find that Max is much happier and behaves better if he can get the one on one attention.
When Trey naps during the day, I take the same approach. Play, play, play with Mr. Max.
Max Doing BIG Boy Stuff
Whether it is going to the coffee shop and having a date with mama, going to the Children’s Museum as a family, or heading to the playground with dada…we focus on things that are special to Max.
At the Children’s Museum he can play on the playground, slide down the slide and chase Drew around. That is special to Max. Instead of trying to involve the baby, we let him have that time.
Drew, Max and I always have dinner together. Trey is typically on his play mat or his Kick & Play. It gives us time to catch up and we’ve began to talk to Max like the little man he is. Asking him questions about his day and making him feel a part of the dinner.
At the coffee shop recently, I wanted Max to feel like a big boy. I got him a blueberry muffin and brought his favorite sippy cup. Max made the perfect little coffee date and I could tell he felt special sitting on mama’s lap as the baby napped in his car seat by my feet.
I have to take a second to plug Max’s Playtex® Sipsters® Stage 3 Thomas & Friends™. He always asks mama for his “choo choo” as he affectionately calls his Thomas cup. It is made for children 12 months and up. It has helped Max as he gets closer to using a lidless cup. Max knows that this cup needs to stay right side up or it will spill. And isn’t he the perfect little Playtex model?