Hi friends! Happy Thursday.
Hope you are having such a great week!
I’ve never, ever been a “planner”…so, if you are a reader of this blog you are following a journey of what is currently inspiring me. What I’m reflecting on at the time and where I’m trying to grow.
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I love writing this blog and it has become very much a part of our lives. In this season of life I’m definitely fitting it into the space between and I’m endlessly thankful that you guys keep on coming back.
I was majorly inspired by Thrive. I listen to Thrive and Present Over Perfect via the Audible App (Try Audible and Get Two Free Audiobooks) when I’m feeling like I need a boost on the way to or back from work. I’ve added other books to the mix, but these two have SO much goodness in them. I can always pick up something new by re-listening. I’ve never really been a read a book twice type of gal, but now I completely understand why people do it. You can discover new things and there are familiar parts that just make your soul sing. I DREAM of writing a book that is THAT helpful to people someday.
Anyway, the chapter I recently listened to in Thrive spoke right to my heart. The author Ariana Huffington always has a way of reminding me of the bigger picture. This time she was talking about how mom was sick and in need of care at the end of her life.
They encountered many different nurses and her mom noticed every time a nurse seemed to be on autopilot. Meaning the nurse wasn’t adding a smile or any warmness to his or her interactions. Her mom would then make it her mission to try to make the nurse smile and lighten up.
Of course it spoke to me because I am a nurse. Last week a patient was complimenting me on how warm and friendly I was. She said, “We’re just going through so much that it does make all the difference if our nurse takes the time to interact and show she cares.” I try to bring a smile and warm greeting into every single room I go into, whether I’m that patient’s nurse for the day or I’m simply stoping by to double check their chemotherapy or blood product with another nurse. I often remind myself of the magnitude of what they are going through and how challenging it must be. This helps me to slow my role (because ya’ll, our clinic is pretty dang busy) and to bring warmness to every interaction. I bet you could apply this to your job too, even if you aren’t a nurse. How are you treating your coworkers? Are you being patient with customers? How are you treating your employees? Are you being patient with your children or are you letting small things upset you?
On Fridays if I have a late starting shift in the clinic, I’ll go to Moka on University and get myself a soy latte as a treat. They have the NICEST staff in the world and I’m continually impressed with them. They also have delicious coffee, so they are easy to recommend. Last time I was in the drive thru and the cashier struck up a warm, friendly conversation. After we had been talking for a while I said, “Honestly, you guys are ALL so nice every single time I stop. Do you get told you have to be that way? Do they just hire nice people? Or do they really emphasize that in your training?!” Two of the employees started smiling and answering. The jokester making the coffee said they brainwash them. The cashier replied, “I think we’re all just really nice people, and we drink a lot of coffee.” It is the CULTURE at that stop! They are SO friendly and they work with friendly people so they exude friendliness. It carries right on over to their customer interactions. Maybe your workplace needs a change in culture?! And you are the perfect person to start bringing the brightness. Also, if you do stop there…get the Moka Bar and thank me later. 😉
I took this inspiration a step further and started to think about my other relationships.
We can demonstrated autopilot with the people closest to us. When you are trying to do 10 things at once or your mind is already onto the next thing or you are using your phone while being “with” your people. A busy mind and busy phone hands makes it EXTREMELY hard to be present for the person that is in front of you. Drew and I have a no phones at dinner rule and I also leave my phone in my purse if I’m meeting a girlfriend for coffee or dinner. And I could DEFINITELY get better at not having it out when we’re with our little family and when we’re with bigger groups.
Sometimes I’ll notice that I’m not FULLY listening to people when I’m in a conversation with them. Whether it be a coworker or my husband, my mind is sometimes noisy. I’ll snap back to the conversation or Drew would say, “You are NOT listening!” That is a perfect example of being on autopilot, I’m not even caring to listen to the full answer of a question I asked! I’m going to challenge myself to really FOCUS on listening to people and not multitask while they are talking for the next week and see if I notice a difference in how I’m making them feel.
My last really good example is with my sister Krystle. Since we’re starting a business together, a lot of our conversations have been about our business. Since it has almost been a year in the making, that’s a long stretch of business talk. We’ve both stumbled at times in remembering the SISTER part of our relationship. I mean, heck…she is one of the people that I’m closest to in the whole world and sometimes I forget to ask how she is doing or we just skim through that part of the conversation and get to the pressing parts of the business. When she comes to visit this weekend, I want to remember to just enjoy our non-business time and give her and her girls so much attention and love.
Ariana Huffington’s book Thrive reminds me to be a lot more human. That at the end of the day, a lot of the things that we’re chasing aren’t going to matter. Her mom left the world without a will or any worldly possession to be divided. She was a women that deeply believed that we should give while we are here. That we should be the person that gets the cranky nurse to crack a smile 😉
I would URGE you to self reflect today. Where are you on autopilot? Who or what in your life needs more attention? Are you making people feel heard or making them feel hurried?
Hope you have the best weekend! I’m actually going to have a special post tomorrow, so STOP back if you are a nurse and need recommendations on maternity nursing clothes!