Hi friends! Happy Thursday.
Hope your week is off to a good start! I’ve had a beautiful stretch off of work + it has given me a ton of time to soak in my sweet little baby. Maxwell has been going through a bit of an attachment phase, he really appreciates thorough attention from mommy + daddy. The good news? He has been such a cuddly guy lately, even giving me hugs + kisses. I swear the Lord makes them this cute so that you can have super human patience when they don’t want you to ever leave their sight.
This post is a follow up from the post on Tuesday, so if you missed it…head there first!
We Need People That Speak Truth to Us
The first goal I want to tackle this year is to be more tidy. Truth be told, I don’t think I would’ve arrived at that goal if it weren’t for my husband. Now, before you start thinking he is super traditional or assigning gender roles by asking me to be cleaner…let it be known that he does a ton around the house + is a lot more tidy than I. I snapped this picture of our sinks to show the difference:
He meticulously cleans his side of the vanity, even making sure there are no water marks on his faucet. If you follow me on Instagram, you’ll realize that I always snap photos on HIS side of the mirror 😉
Drew + I listened to a sermon together on Sunday. One of the things the pastor said that really stuck with me was that we need people in our lives that speak truth to us. Because we’re not perfect + there are ways we need to improve or situations that we could’ve handled better.
When the sermon was over I asked Drew what I could improve on the most AND I was ready for him to answer the question truthfully as I talked about on Tuesday. I wanted to know what he thought. In turn, he asked me what he could improve on the most + I answered that thoughtfully as well.
Since it is my blog + not Drew’s…I won’t share his area of work. He fully agreed with my recommendation though + we both set out to improve. We also cover topics deeper than cleaning, this is just a blog appropriate example. 😉
Why am I sharing this with you?
We can all improve in the area of seeking the truth! Think about the last time you received feedback. Did you automatically get defensive? Or did you listen + learn? I recently read an article that said that giving + receiving feedback are both skills. I whole heartedly agree. So take a second to think about how you are giving + receiving feedback. Would your spouse have been scared to answer that question? Would you have been kind with your delivery? Are you coachable at work? Are you giving feedback to the person directly or do you talk about them behind their back?
We need people in our lives, whether it is a friend, colleague, mentor, industry friend, spouse, etc. that are going to be honest with us…especially IF we are specifically asking + looking to improve.
Certain people are going to always tell you what you want to hear. They may be better at cheerleading than telling you the truth. We NEED people like this (hello mom!) because they make us feel great. But, are they the one you always go to when you’re trying to receive feedback? Because they’ll probably give you a very rosy look at yourself + tell you what you want to hear.
Truth Tellers vs. Negative Nancys
There is a huge difference between the people that you trust to give you honest feedback + people that are just generally negative toward others or idea bashers. You have to be able to define the difference in order to stay confident + driven enough to accomplish your goals.
When we have new ideas or we’re going through a big change, we often look to other people for validation. One problem with that: you’re bound to find someone negative + they may kill your momentum. Plus, let’s be honest…we don’t trust everyone to advise us in something as big as a job change.
I recently listened to a NPR: How I Built This podcast (I’ve been getting SUPER into podcasts lately, I know I’m late to the game) that was very inspiring. Spanx founder Sara Blakely was on talking about how she built her Spanx empire. When she first had the idea + was developing it/pitching it, she only told her mom + her husband. She wanted to keep her idea secret, partially because she KNEW she didn’t want people making her question herself. Most of us have a healthy amount of self doubt + don’t need other people’s doubt too. They could save their negativity as far as she was concerned.
Does that make sense? Think about it as having trusted advisors. These people know you + can provide you with healthy feedback to help you improve…if you let them 🙂
Know how to spot a Negative Nancy and DO NOT let them have any of your headspace. Seriously, I’ve trained my mind to let little unhelpful side comments go….+ fast!
I’ve been SO inspired lately. So I wrote down about 10 blog post ideas. I love when this happens + as I mentioned before, the main thing I’ve been doing is listening to + reading from inspiring people. If you are stopping by for inspiration, that means SO much. Thanks for reading!
Hope you have a terrific weekend,