Hi friends! Happy Friday.
Maxwell was having a particularly crabby day yesterday.
I’m thinking he had a few reasons for this: he has two little bottom teeth popping through + his schedule has been off after the holidays. Yesterday was actually the first full day that all the visitors were gone + it was back to just the three of us.
Also, he is a baby + babies just have those days. I think we actually all have those days where we feel a bit out of sorts + crabby.
When Drew + I were texting about it, I told him…
That’s okay! It would be in the parenting job description and I would’ve still signed on.
For some reason, this way of thinking really helps me. I’m blogging about it in case it helps you too!
Undoubtedly a parenting job description would include a phrase like: Ideal candidate has the ability to stay patient and kindhearted when the child is crabby and crying most of the day. Job requires days with minimal opportunities for a break.
I’m relating it to parenting, but you can also relate it to your actual job, marriage, friendships, other relationships, etc.
Of course I also knew there were going to be long, late nights with a baby.
So when Max has a night full of wake ups (teething nowadays). In a situation like this here is how my self talk sounds: Amy you knew this + knew it would sometimes fall on a work night. You’ll be okay. No need to go to work with a poor attitude because Maxwell kept you up, it is par for the course. You got this!
When one of the aforementioned situations arises or another parenting challenge, I also remind myself of all of the goodness in being Max’s momma that I love SO much. All of the times that Maxwell makes me melt right onto the floor with his sweet little babbles or baby kisses. I think of precious examples like the other day at my friend’s house when Max was SO curious about her puppy Zula. But when Zula would come too close + lick his hands he would quickly snuggle into me for reassurance. It just made me thoroughly appreciate being his person.
The truth about parenting is that it isn’t easy. There are challenging times. But the challenging is doable + the reward is the sweet baby that you are trying your best to soothe. I constantly sing Trace Adkins song to myself when the going gets tough: You’re going to miss this / You’re going to want this back / You’re going to wish these days hadn’t gone by so fast.
My dad + I were talking about this exact subject yesterday. How it is the best + most challenging role that we could ever face, but how we would never change it for anything. So sweet to now discuss parenting with my parents.
How can this relate to other parts of life? I often think about this during my nursing job. Amy, you knew there were going to be shifts that were crazy, challenging, + emotionally draining. But, you also know that you would sign up for it all again in a second.
Marriage. I wish I could tell you it was all easy peezy. But there are times that it is also going to be challenging, I knew that when I signed up. At the end of the day, when Drew + I are in bed together…no matter what that day brought…I thank God for him. I tell him I’m SO thankful to be married to you.
It’s all about perspective my friends.
Hope you all have an incredible weekend!