Hi friends! Happy Tuesday.
“Society makes us believe that being a mother should be reserved for certain times and places. But there is no such thing as work–life balance. It’s all just life. Because being a parent is part of who you are. When you’re a mom, you’re never not a balancing act. Never not going, going, going. Never not figuring it out as you go along. And never not loving every minute of it. Because when you’re a mom, you’re ” –Boppy Company.
With a quote like that and a carrier like this, how could I not partner up with Boppy?
I’m passionately a mama, passionately a nurse, passionately a small business owner and passionately a blogger. That first title is never left behind, no matter what the day brings.
When my Boppy™ ComfyFit® Baby Carrier arrived, I couldn’t have been more thrilled with it! It is perfectly Amy as it is made out of yoga material. This means that it is comfortable for both Trey and me. We SURE have made great use of ours, using it at home, at the Children’s Museum, at the coffee shop and everywhere in between.
Thank you Boppy for sharing the #NeverNotAMom message and for sponsoring this blog post.
Mamahood is not without challenges as I have written about SO many times. To be honest, I had zero clue the extent of the challenges that lied ahead of me when I met our first baby Maxwell.
When I put my scrubs on and head to my nursing job, I’m still Maxwell’s and Trey’s mama. When I go to a business meeting for Expecting and Empowered, I’m still Maxwell’s and Trey’s mama. When I go to the coffee shop to write a blog post, I’m still Maxwell’s and Trey’s mama. They are never far from my mind and I think about them often, smiling as I do.
Today I wanted to share some of the ways that I stay positive when I’m away from my babies, hoping that it might help you.
Think of them cheering for you.
I ALWAYS picture little Maxwell and Trey saying “Go mama go!”. Whether I’m working out or headed into a day at my nursing job, I KNOW I’m doing things that will someday make them proud. They’ll understand the gravity of someone being really sick and how mama goes to work to help them feel better. No matter what your job is, know that your little ones will someday understand how hard you worked to provide for your family. How you followed your passion. How you balanced it and loved them so hard while you did. They’ll be so proud of their mama.
Realize that tears do NOT make you weak.
There are times that I drop the boys off at daycare and start bawling. Drew knows to answer his phone if it is around drop off time. I’m not sure why it seems so much harder somedays, but I know that it is okay to let myself crumble every now and then. Drew has the most encouraging words and always tells me it is because I love them so much. After giving myself five minutes of talking to my sweet groom, I tell him I need to get off the phone and compose myself before arriving at work. Listen mama, even if the tears come AT work…you’re doing amazing. You’re making it work. You’re STRONG!
Print out the happiest pictures.
When I go to my locker at work, I get to see my babies smiling ear to ear. It serves as a reminder that even as a working mama, they are still such happy babies. I’m a big part of that. The pictures also serve as a reminder of who I’m working hard for and the blessings that I get to go home to.
Link arms with other mamas.
What are we without support? I’m SO lucky to be surrounded by amazing women. I can come as I am whether I’m excited to tell them about a small business triumph or I’m talking through tears (or crying so hard that I’m not talking, but they just wait for me to gather my composure) after a hard day with or away from the babies. Instead of believing your feelings are just unique to you, realize there is a mama out there wanting to cheer for you and support you. Wanting to link arms with you and tell you, “WE GOT THIS!”
Check out this beautiful video:
This mama job is not easy, and truly there is never an off day. But what a beautiful thing it is to love little people so hard that they are always with you. Always front of mind.
I’m never not a mom, and I’m SO happy for it.