Hi friends! Happy Thursday.
After I wrote the post Blog Life, I received a lot of positive feedback. It makes me SO happy that people found it helpful.
I wanted to follow it up with a pep talk, so that you keep that momentum continuing into action.
I’ve recently been helping one of my friends as she starts her blog. I was telling my husband about it. It’s really fun for me to be on this side: cheering her on, giving her advice and seeing HER excitement.
She told me she has been thinking of starting a blog for two years.
I said, “GIRL!!!!!!!!! You could’ve already had two years under your belt! What are you waiting for?! You are doing this.”
A lot of people get stuck…and today I want to help unstick you.
Here are common thoughts I’ve heard aspiring entrepreneurs and bloggers have:
What will people think?
It would be easy for me to say, “WHO CARES?!”…but I definitely had those feelings in the beginning of BalancedAmes. I would blush when people asked me about it and completely downplay it.
Now that I’m actually to the point of thinking “who cares” about what I pose…I wanted to share some insight.
There will be people who are excited to support you and there will be people that ignore the fact that it is happening and never ask you about it. Both are okay. Friends and family are not obligated to jump on your blogger bandwagon and some will not understand what or why you are doing what you are doing. That’s okay, only YOU (and maybe your partner) have to know your what and why. Let the rest of them catch up. 😉
Do I have to share it with my friends/family?
I would say YES. I would share it on your personal social media accounts in the beginning. Who knows if your ex-boyfriend’s best friend’s wife (actual example) will love your mission and support you. If you never took the chance to SHARE your OWN passion, you’ll never know and I’m not sure how you’ll find your initial tribe.
I don’t think anyone likes endless self promotion, so now that I have established pages for BalancedAmes I (mostly) keep my blog posts there. I will share to my personal account if I think a lot of people can benefit from it or if I just really want my friends/family to see it.
When I was starting my Facebook Page for BalancedAmes, I invited ANYONE on my friends list that might be interested. It is there right to completely ignore the invite BUT they might also join and love what you are doing!
What if it doesn’t work out?
I told my friend, “Who cares if you stop in six months?!” Of course there might be some cost associated and in this household we very much value hard earned money, so that is a consideration. I know people start a conversation in their mind listing off all the possible what if scenarios. This can send you spiraling into making your leap seem too dangerous. Chances are you are making it far more scary and complicated than it actually is. Just make forward movement toward your goal.
My best suggestion for getting into a better mindset is to answer your questions or analyze your fears:
If you are thinking, “Who is even going to read this?” Answer (this is where you talk to yourself): That’s a great question Amy. Well, you know all your nursing coworkers always ask you about health and fitness information…some of them will be interested. You know plenty of other women are often confused about how to tackle a healthier lifestyle and working out…”
If you are thinking, “What are people going to think?” Answer: Another good question Amy. I’m betting most people are probably going to respect that you are doing something you’re passionate about.”
This is a way to start thinking more rationally about your fears.
Start specific and THEN expand
If you start as a lifestyle blogger and are blogging about EVERYTHING under the sun, people will get confused AND not know what to look for you to. Rather, start with what you are TRULY passionate about and possibly know more than the average Jane about. I started with health and fitness. ALL my posts in the beginning were about physical and mental health.
Once I had people that read regularly and engaged with me, they followed me as I evolved. Now I’m able to post about mamahood and most of my initial readers are still here and cheering our little family on.
Done is better than perfect.
Another hold up is that people think they need a fully developed blog before they can share it. I HIGHLY disagree. I had 3 posts done before I shared BalancedAmes with the world.
Don’t think you need a months worth of posts before you can share. RATHER focus on the quality and content of the ones you DO make. SHOW people what they can expect from you. I would make your first post an introduction. Tell people when you will post and what you’ll be posting. I stick to a Tuesday/Thursday posting schedule and I TRY my best to get it up in the morning (ugh, #momlife). Show up when you say you are going to show up and make yourself stick to it, especially when you are starting out.
Don’t feel like you need the prettiest picture or that you need to pay for a theme just yet. I waited to buy my current theme (MagazinePro) and JUST (3 years in) linked up with a photographer to take pictures when I’m doing collaborations. Caitlin, you are a GEM and I’m SO thankful for your friendship first of all and photography second of all.
Reach out to those that can help.
I’m SO glad that my friend told me about her dreams! I’m SO excited to share her blog with y’all when it is up and running. Maybe you have a friend or two that blogs and you’d be able to ask them questions.
I wish I could give every single one of you advice and brainstorm for you. Alas, I’m much too busy for that. BUT, I was OH, SO happy to help a dear friend head in the direction of her dreams. Think about the people around you that have skills or advice that might help you. Tell them about your new project. 😉
THIS book! Such a game changer and Jen Sincero will have you RUNNING toward your goal. She put a fire under my own little buns and I often re-listen to parts of the book when I need a pick me up. Here is a perfect example:
“You are perfect. To think anything less is as pointless as a river thinking that it’s got too many curves or that it moves too slowly or that its rapids are too rapid. Says who? You’re on a journey with no defined beginning, middle or end. There are no wrong twists and turns. There is just being. And your job is to be as you as you can be. This is why you’re here. To shy away from who you truly are would leave the world you-less. You are the only you there is and ever will be. I repeat, you are the only you there is and ever will be. Do not deny the world its one and only chance to bask in your brilliance.”
My sister and friend both just took me up on this suggestion and flew through it! It just sets you on fire y’all.
If you are a busy person (almost everyone) I would highly recommend signing up for Audible. If you use this link I get credit and you get two free audiobooks: Try Audible and Get Two Free Audiobooks. I’m ALWAYS listening to a book and that is part of the reason that I’m more often than not feeling excited, empowered and inspired.
Hope this helped give you a little push in the right direction!
Have a great weekend!