Hi friends! Happy Thursday.
If you are a lover of blogs and Instagrammers like I am, we’re currently being inundated with holiday gift guides. Bloggers are getting REAL creative with it. Holiday gift guides for her, holiday gift guides for him, holiday gift guides for toddlers, holiday gift guides for the house lover, holiday gift guides for the sports lover, holiday gift guides for the newborn mom, holiday gifts for grandma, holidays gifts for EVERYONE!
I’m not just trying to go against the grain here, I’m just sharing what we’re actually doing over here.
Drew and I have called Blackhawk Church our church home for about 5 years now. Our church participates in Advent Conspiracy, which you can learn more about here. This spoke STRAIGHT to our hearts when we learned about it and we decided to participate in this INSTEAD OF giving each other gifts.
We love this tradition and try to increase the amount we give each year. We know there are plenty of other occasions (like our birthdays or heck pushing a baby out) that we give each other gifts for. We asked ourselves: What if we just take this ONE holiday to give to people that need our resources MUCH more than we need another Lululemon item/golf tool?!
Drew and I both have really nice things…so we’re not deprived over here. This is just ONE thing we can do to give OUTSIDE the walls of this house. When you have more than you need, it feels so good to give.
Maybe this blog is speaking to you or maybe you are thinking, heck no girl. Either way, that’s okay. I just wanted to share more information incase it is!
Tips for Non-Gift Giving
- Pick a worthy cause and GIVE. Drew and I love where our money goes when we participate in Advent Conspiracy. Everything from helping the homeless, to combating trafficking, to helping people get safe drinking water. Instead of getting each other gifts, we take that amount and give it to those that need it more.
- See if anyone in your family feels the same way. With Drew’s brother and his wife/my best friend we decided that we wouldn’t exchange gifts either. Honestly, everyone just has what they need and will be getting gifts from other people. Maybe there are people that would want to agree to this with you 😉 We’re going to value our TIME together.
- Try not to go overboard with your children. Drew and I do take it a step further to: we aren’t buying our children ANYTHING. Before you think we’re the grinches, they are going to get PLENTY from our families. We also realize that they are SO young and they really aren’t going to realize that mama and dada didn’t contribute to that huge stack of presents that is in front of them. We LOVE them to pieces and want to give them the entire world, but what if that doesn’t mean material things?
- Write a letter to your family. My friend Abby and her husband Colin even take it a step further. They are incredible with their money and creative with their feelings about their own daughter’s gifts. Here is the letter they wrote their families last holiday:
Drew and I know that purchasing gifts for our little guys will bring joy to our families (especially both our mamas). So, we’re happy to let them do that and we’re happy that Maxwell will have toys and clothes to open. Trey doesn’t know what is going on, but he’ll get an enormous amount of snuggles and some items for his future. I suggested seasonally appropriate clothing for him in bigger sizes, and I know we’ll get the cutest stuff!
Ya’ll we are just a family doing our best to find ways to help others and save our own money. We believe that finances are SUCH a big part of our overall health. Why? Because being broke or not having money to deal with an emergency or fix something in your house is STRESSFUL! A lot of people are really fortunate to make a good amount of money, but then they kind of SUCK at managing it and end up being stressed about it anyway. Maybe your Christmas shopping has gone overboard, but don’t worry it isn’t too late to change or return a couple things!
Here are a few older blog posts about finances that might help you straighten your sails:
Money, Money, Money: How Abby and Colin Stay Financial Fit: Guest post by my awesome friends. That was their letter above and they definitely have it going on with their financial fitness.
Confessions of a Non-Shopaholic: Ya’ll, in Chicago as a single gal I lived paycheck to paycheck. Not by necessity, but because I ALWAYS had new clothes and a fresh mani/pedi. This post talks about how I changed my ways and financial ideas that I now live by.
Financial Health: This is a VINTAGE post (2015) 😉 It explains our MONTHLY financial meeting and glass house approach to our finances. Drew and I are on the same team and believe on being on the same page. We STILL meet every single month, our November meeting is on Friday.
Have a great day!