Happy Tuesday! If you follow me on Instagram, you know that I’ve been ALL ABOUT the pregnancy confidence this go around.
It has REALLY helped that this is my second pregnancy rodeo. During my first pregnancy, I would think: What is my postpartum body going to do? Are all these women right when they tell me, “Oh just wait until after kids, your body will never be the same!” I had a lot of questions and I was excited to be done being pregnant and meet our first babe.
This pregnancy, my thought process has been a lot different. Drew and I are not yet sure what size family is right for us. We also don’t know what God’s plan for us is. SO, I’m cherishing these wiggles and this big belly. If it does happen to be my last pregnancy, I don’t want to waste any of it wishing it away or longing to “get my body back”. Pregnancy and the newborn phase goes SO fast as is, so this second time mama has a lot more patience.
Pregnancy can be REALLY hard for some women in terms of body changes and body confidence. If this post just helps one or two mamas-to-be to love and appreciate their pregnancy body more, that would make me the happiest. I narrowed down my tips and wanted to share those today!
My 5 Top Tips to Rock that Bump Confidence:
- Prepare Yourself for Negative Pregnancy Comments. Unless you are the luckiest pregnant woman in the world, you are going to run into some rude, unflattering, and downright mean pregnancy comments. For me, this always happens right around this time. From the start of third trimester until this baby comes, my belly is loud and proud. Strangers often think I’m further along than I actually am. Just last week at work someone asked my due date. When I replied November 16th she said, “You are quite LARGE already. When I was pregnant I didn’t even start showing until 6 months! My doctor would be saying, ‘When are you going to show?'” Someone asked if I was having twins this pregnancy. Another person told me if my chemotherapy gown didn’t fit anymore, I could use bungee cords to go around it because they come in a wide variety of sizes. I have a couple phrases ready to go to meet these comments and I would highly suggest that you do too. To the women that said I was quite large, I replied, “Both my baby and I are very healthy. That is the most important thing isn’t it?” It is short, to the point, said nicely…and I’m HOPING it helped her to think about her comment.
- Let It Go. In the beginning of this pregnancy, I was feeling a little saucy. I thought I was going to have this critical conversations with each person that had negative pregnancy comments to be a crusader in changing the world for pregnant people. Well, it happens that I work at a cancer clinic. Often the people are my patients and I would never want to be sassy with my how to talk to a pregnant lady education. I always tell them that we are both very healthy to try to help them realize that is what is important and not the size of the pregnant person. This pregnancy I’ve been really awesome at letting the negativity go. I don’t go home and cry (mayyyyybe happened a time or two my first go around). In fact, I make it a goal to not let them steal any of my pregnancy shine. Of course I tell my coworkers, husband, and Instagram followers for the shock value that everyone gets out of these comments. 😉 It is like my high school track coach once told me: “Amy, you have 5 minutes to be upset about this race…and then we’re moving on.” Give yourself that rule about pregnancy comments (or any negative comment) and you’ll enjoy the journey a heck of a lot more.
- Do NOT Become Obsessive About Your Weight. I know TWO pregnant ladies that weigh themselves every single day. I try to educate them about why that doesn’t make sense for ANYONE to do (wrote a blog post about that here)…let alone someone that is growing a human. But alas, they have a daily meeting with their number. This pregnancy, I knew I only wanted to weigh in at my doctor’s office. This way, I could really focus on being healthy for myself and my baby without worrying about what the scale said or watching it closely as it inched up. I’m going to have the same strategy postpartum. New flash: for SO many of us…pregnancy is a one way ticket to being your highest weight ever. Prepare for that and prepare the fact that you might gain more than you initially think. My first pregnancy I thought, “Perfect. I’ll gain 25 pounds, thank you very much.” I was thinking the low end of the healthy range sounded perfect. Imagine my surprise when I zoomed right past that and ended up at 40 pounds with Max. This only getting weighed at the OB’s office has worked MUCH better for me. For much of my Max pregnancy, I weighed myself once a week at home. The funny part about watching my weight closely vs. not is that I’m definitely going to gain less weight this pregnancy than I did with Max. Go figure! Step away from that scale mamas-to-be and focus on the next point!
- Eat Well, Workout, and Rest. Essentially, take care of yourself! You can find information about this point ALL over this blog. It can make a huge difference in how your pregnancy goes, just read Brit’s Story (with her first she gained 60 pounds and with her second 31…more than the weight difference it was the difference in how she FELT during her pregnancies). You should be doing this ALL the time, but it is even more vital when you are growing a human! When you are taking care of yourself, you confidence is higher. Believe me, I was the college girl that was doing the opposite of taking care of herself…and now I’m the 31 year old that puts self care very high on my priority list. It makes a WORLD of difference. I can rock this bump, knowing what I’m gaining is necessary for this sweet baby and that I’m doing the right things for both of us.
- Wear Things That Make You Feel Beautiful. Ya’ll! You don’t have to crawl into an oversized sweater and sweats…and just wait for postpartum to arrive. Rock that pregnant body in whatever makes you feel beautiful and confident. I LOVE wearing tight maternity clothes that show off my bump. You can take the opportunity to show off a body part that you are loving. Whether that be your pregnant lady lumps or your legs (see below). I love dressing up for dates or events, and I truly feel beautiful carrying this baby.
This blog post features clothes from PinkBlush Maternity. PinkBlush was one of the very first brands I had the opportunity to work with and I’ve continued to love their clothing and working with them. Today, over on Instagram I’m giving away a $75 PinkBlush gift card! Head over to enter and keep in mind that they have beautiful non-preggo clothing too!
My PinkBlush wardrobe continues to expand and I wanted to share my new favorites along with some pregnancy looks.
Olive Jacket: I don’t think I’ve ever met an olive jacket that I didn’t like. I’m a SUCKER for this color, especially in the fall. This one is very lightweight (which my overheated pregnant body loves). This outfit IS my pregnant style. I love it!
Scalloped Maternity Dress: I’m also a serious sucker for a scallop detail. Although I typically order tight fitting maternity dresses, I had to give this one a try. My friend Kyley and I had to laugh…because I hadn’t tried it on before we snapped these pictures. It was just a wee bit short 😉 BUT, if I’m honest I love short dresses and would totally rock this. I’m 5’8″ and my bump is almost full grown, so on a shorter girl/less developed bump…this dress might look different! I would love this for a fancy date night or fall wedding!
Delivery Robe: I think this makes 4 or 5 PinkBlush delivery robes for me. I absolutely LOVE wearing them when I’m super pregnant and postpartum. I’m going to SAVE this one until the hospital. I cannot believe I will be holding a sweet baby when I’m wearing this. This time I opted for the lace detail. I’ve seen countless women look put together postpartum because they had one of these pretty robes on, so they are easy to recommend.
I hope you loved my PinkBlush picks! Don’t forget to enter the giveaway!
My post for Thursday is going to be a whole heck of a lot different, but stop back to read my best tips and how I navigate feeling OVERWHELMED.