Hi friends! Happy Tuesday.
Drew and I leave for our second babymoon very early TOMORROW! I can hardly believe this vacation is here. We’ve had it on the books for a long time, yet it seemed to come up so quickly.
We are not taking Maxwell with us. We are both off today and we’re soaking in every single minute with our little man before our longest time away from him begins. Although, I do have to say…he is off to a crazy start 😉 I wrote a blog about why we decided to take the trip just the two of us, you can read it here.
I’m SO excited to spend this special time with my husband, and was inspired to write this blog post. I’ve also been re-listening to Present Over Perfect: Leaving Behind Frantic for a Simpler, More Soulful Way of Living and still gaining SO much from it the second time around. I will forever recommend it and it speaks straight to my soul. I’m sharing a few quotes at the end of the post that jump off the page for me.
If You Would’ve Told Me…
When I was bopping around La Crosse in my early 20s, I would’ve never believed you if you told me that Drew would be the love of my life and father of my babies. The man that would have such a positive impact on me and become my truest friend. The person that knows me to my core.
Back in college we were friends and neighbors. Neither of us showing interest in the other and both constantly dating other people. My impressions of him? He was a loud football player that ate far more Chinese food in one sitting than a person should.
Looking back I have to smile. I had him all wrong (although I stand by the Chinese food comment).
Drew was different from our very first date. He opened the door for me, asked about each of my siblings in detail, and planned a weekend full of activities that he knew I would like. We ran 5 miles together that weekend, which was the longest he had ever ran. This marked the beginning of him taking interests in my interests, and me doing the same for him. He also always had this caring look in his eyes and that has never left.
Marrying him was one of the easiest decisions I have ever made. I knew what I was getting and I wanted him for life.
What I’ve learned about him since? He turned out to be the sweetest dad. There is nothing more attractive than seeing Drew so affectionate and sweet to Maxwell. On Monday morning, Max woke up at 5am. It was the type of cry that a parent knows means: I’m not going back to sleep until someone comes in here!!!! Without a word, Drew left our bed to go attend to him. I knew he was rocking him in the glider and I fell fast asleep with thankfulness and a smile.
Drew had eventually brought him into our bed. This is always a last ditch effort move to try to get all of us more sleep. Drew was comforting Max. I opened my eyes later to see Maxwell sleeping snuggly on his daddy’s chest. I took a mental picture of this moment, knowing that it was one that I never wanted to forget. Max still looked so small and young on Drew, but they have built such a strong bond. We’re no longer just warm bodies to fall asleep on. We’re his people.
One thing at the top of my priority list in life is to teach Maxwell what loves looks like. Love in a marriage and love in a family.
We are about to fill our time up even more with the addition of our second child. We’ve learned that it is much harder to create time to spend just the two of us and it will only get more challenging.
So we are EXCITED to go and concentrate on each other. Concentrate on the love that created this little family. Learn new things about each other. Experience beautiful places that we’ve never been to before, together. We want to keep our marriage strong and solid, knowing that these little people can create a bit of tension and space between even the most loving of couples.
We are leaving Max great hands with Drew’s parents. And although we will miss him more than words, that is not what we’re going to focus on. We’re going to focus on our love. A love that continues to make me feel like the luckiest woman.
I wanted to add a few quotes from Present Over Perfect by Shauna Niequist. These are words that I always want to carry with me.
“It is better to be loved than admired. It is better to be truly known and seen and taken care of by a small tribe than adored by strangers who think they know you in a meaningful way.”
“It’s easy to be liked by strangers. It’s very hard to be loved and connected to the people in your home when you’re always bringing them your most exhausted self and resenting the fact that the scraps you’re giving them aren’t cutting it.”
“”It’s easier to be impressive to strangers than it is to be consistently kind behind the scenes. It’s easier to show up and be a hit for an hour than it is to get down on the floor with your kids when you’re so tired your eyes are screaming and bone-dry. It’s easier to be charming on a conference call than it is to traverse the distance between you and your spouse, the distance you created.”
I love to ask myself, “How would Drew and Max describe me to others?” “Are you giving your best self to the two people you love the most in the world?” “Does Drew deserve to be the one that gets the brunt of a hard day?”
Maybe those questions are fitting for you and yours too.
I continue to “read” via the Audible App. I love that the author Shauna is reading her own words because she knows exactly how she wanted them spoken. I turn on whatever book I’m listening to on the way to and back from work. It fills me up so much more than the radio. You can click on the image below to get 2 free audiobooks if you think that would fit into your life too:
With this post, we are off!
I won’t be posting on Thursday, but you can find us on Instagram where we’ll be sharing a few snaps and stories from our vacation.