Hi friends! Happy Thursday.
Drew said to me on Monday night: “You never sleep in any more!” I had to smile. It’s true! This has been a very busy season of my life and his comment inspired this blog post.
Maxwell now wakes up around 6am each morning. Sometimes a little before and sometimes a little after. He used to sleep until 7am (which was pretty glorious), but now 6 has been the norm for over a month.
I very much feel more ready for the day if I’m up before him. That way I can finish and post my blog post, make myself a hot breakfast, and if it is a work day I can get myself all ready. I also have responsibilities to attend to for Expecting and Empowered, so I need to make sure I’m up to date on an email correspondence or business tasks.
I feel much more prepared for the day and prepared to be a happy mama when greeting him for his day if I wake up before him. Yes, I do this even on the weekends…although I typically do give myself ONE sleep until he wakes up day.
This is a very full season for me. But, here is the thing: I’m SO deeply passionate about the things that I’m doing. So much so that I don’t mind the full schedule.
As a mama, business owner, nurse, and blogger…I have a feeling it isn’t going to slow down anytime soon. Especially with the business launching and the new baby joining us shortly 🙂
Today I wanted to shed some light on how I manage all of this while staying happy and healthy. After the blog was mostly written, I reflected and thought: I should follow each point with where I can also IMPROVE.
I prioritize my little family first.
On days when Max is home from daycare, I work on business and blog stuff during nap times or after he goes to bed for the night. Anyone with a 15 month old can tell you that they don’t exactly let you sit on a computer or on your phone anyways. 😉 He is far too busy. So we enjoy our time! We go to the park, play in the garage (this is oddly his favorite activity), play in the living room, go on a playdate, meet dada for lunch, etc. I am able to do short tasks during the day: unload the dishwasher, do loads of laundry, make food, and somewhat clean during his awake time…but, it is squeezed in between (like when he is happy and eating in his highchair). Nap time is my work time during those days. I’ve become SO efficient during his nap time! I DO business/blogs/a workout the whole time he is napping.
It is SO important to me that I give him a ton of attention and that we have fun on our days at home together. Same with our marriage. Drew and I definitely try to make sure we enjoy a little time together each night. Typically it is dinner and sometimes we’ll watch one of our favorite shows together. I feel good knowing that Drew and Maxwell both feel very, very loved.
Where I can improve: I definitely could use my phone less around my little and big guy 🙂 I love catching ALL of the adorable moments of Max’s life, but I also don’t want him to remember a phone glued to my hand. Drew and I are very good at having phone free dinners and Max time when he gets home from work, but I want to improve during the daytime. Plan: Putting my phone up on the mantle for two, one hour periods of time during my days at home. And having a Sunday morning phone-less stretch.
Take care of myself.
Ya’ll know how huge I am about self care. If what I was doing was making me super stressed or I was not taking care of myself…I would figure out how to cut back. So far, so good! I still go to bed early, make healthy food, workout 5 days a week, and take some time for me. Tradeoffs? I watch less TV then ever (nothing I NEED to see) and I never nap anymore.
Where I can improve: Reflecting on this one, I truly think that I don’t feel stressed because I’ve trained my mind to be that way AND because of my personality type. I never lay awake thinking about everything I have to do, I just fall fast asleep. A couple years ago I was in a different busy season. I had started my first nursing job, we were about to close on our house, and were getting married all at the same time. At work one day I nearly fainted. At that time, I didn’t think I was overly stressed or doing too much either. Point being: Just because I don’t think I’m stressed doesn’t mean my body cannot feel the high demand right now (plus it is cooking a baby!). I could definitely take opportunities to sleep in a little more often and opportunities to rest instead of being constantly on the go. Plan: Um? My best idea so far is to take one of my work days and not do ANYTHING blog or business related that day. To also take that day off from working out. This way I will have a weekday to rejuvenate.
I do have to say no.
I’m not going to be the girl that can attend a last minute happy hour invite. Although each week varies they are pretty scheduled. An example of our after work weekdays this week: Monday we grilled and had family time, Tuesday Drew had dinner with friends and a softball game, Drew mowed last night, I close the clinic tonight, and tomorrow we have another family night. So for 3 of the 5 nights the other parent is on full Max duty and there is little wiggle room for other plans 😉
I have become way more comfortable at gracefully saying no and not feeling bad about it. I know a lot of people still struggle with this, but I’m telling you…it will make a huge difference in your busyness level.
I have learned over the years that I feel far better if I have productive weeks and I leave most of my socializing friend and family time to the weekend. THIS has actually hugely improved since I no longer work on the weekends! Drew and I have felt a huge difference and we’re SO happy about it.
Where I can improve: I do love meeting a friend out for dinner on a weeknight. But for me it is all about PLANNING that a week or two in advance so we can add it to our family schedule!
Learning to communicate better.
Sometimes I try to fit WAY too much in a limited amount of time. I’ve learned that I need to tell Drew, “Hey, I have this Expecting and Empowered deadline coming up and I need a few solid hours.” Together we make a plan and I can head to the local coffee shop to make sure I have uninterrupted time to work. Otherwise, it was becoming way too overwhelming to fit everything in during nap time. Drew is completely supportive of the business and blog, so he is HAPPY to help and give me time…it is a matter of making a plan and communicating clearly.
Where I can improve: This is probably the place I can improve the most. It is HARD to communicate well all the time, especially when you add kids into the mix. BUT, I need to get better at recognizing when I’m starting to feel overwhelmed and reach out to Drew sooner. He never denies me the time I need, but we do need to PLAN it. So before this weekend starts, it might be a great idea for me to say, “Can I go to the coffeeshop for a few hours by myself?” Wondering if Drew made it this far into the post and if he’ll have an answer for me 😉
I hope you enjoyed this blog! I really loved reflecting on each point because I KNOW I’m right there with ya’ll…just trying to be the best mama, wife, business owner, blogger…the best me 🙂
Have a great weekend!