Hi friends! Happy Tuesday.
Hope your week is off to the best start. I’m SO excited for this post today! Drew graciously agreed to do another guest post on BalancedAmes! When I have him on, I want him to tell his story and so after I give him the questions, I just plunk in whatever he writes. I couldn’t wait to get this one back and it did not disappoint. Thank you for being such a sweet and supportive blog/business husband 😉
This is another post suggested by my sweet, sweet reader Maura. Maybe I need to pick her brain more 😉
I just wanted to say that I thought Drew was incredible in the delivery room. He encouraged me and I could feel that he believed in me.
Without further ado, here is Drew’s perspective of Maxwell’s birth:
Ames: You were SO, SO great in the delivery room and I couldn’t have done it without your reassurance. Did you feel like you were helping?
Drew: Yes and no. The reason I say no is because you were completely in the zone and doing your own thing. I felt like I was a spectator quietly rooting on my favorite sports team. However, I know that my presence and calm reassurance throughout the labor was a helpful encouragement to you.
Ames: Was Maxwell’s birth different than you expected? What was the most surprising thing that happened?
Drew: I had no clue what to expect, and I certainly was in for a surprise. I was speechless for a good majority of the labor…mostly because I didn’t know what to do or say. You were so active that it was hard for me to keep up or understand what exactly you were doing. To provide an example visual for you wonderful readers, Amy was constantly on the move rotating between walking around the room and doing air squats. I think she spent less than 30 seconds in the delivery bed during the entire process. Which, leads me to the most surprising thing that happened…. Our delivering physician, who thank God has the hands of Jerry Rice, received Maxwell into this world in the bowl of a toilet. Yes, you read that right folks, Max almost began his life with a swirly. I will save the rest of the details for the sake of Amy’s dignity, but I’m sure you can imagine the amazement I felt as our child entered the world as a 98 mph heater into the soft mits of our sure-handed doc. Ames: haha, I already blogged about it babe! Natural Birth: The Real Story and Tips for Getting Through It. Additionally, I pushed out that 98 mph heater and in the last of 3 pushes he really did come right out. No shame in my birth game.
Ames: Was it tough seeing your wife go through pain like that? Be honest, did you think I was going to make it through sans pain medication?
Drew: Of course it was difficult watching my bride experience that level of pain, but at the same time, it gave me comfort that I knew you were feeling gratification by sticking to your birth plan. I never thought for a second that you were going to ask for pain medication…you knew what you were doing, and you stuck to it. Props.
Ames: What was it like seeing your little baby boy coming into the world?
Drew: It was incredible…hard to describe, but absolutely amazing. The only con is that I wasn’t able to announce the gender due to the aforementioned unique delivery style, so Amy got to take the call. But in all seriousness, it’s a different kind of joy than anything I’ve ever experienced.
Ames: Are you ready to do it again?!
Drew: Totes. Piece of cake. Since I’ve been told that no birth is the same, it will be interesting to observe how our upcoming birth compares to Max’s. I’m also excited to meet kiddo #2, whoever you are. Ames: haha, piece of cake is easy for you to say 😉
Ames: Any tips for daddies to be that are about to go through this experience? Is there any way your could’ve prepared better?
Drew: I would recommend asking your lady what her birth plan is, especially if she hasn’t shared it with you. Additionally, I suggest asking her how you can best support her throughout the entire process, and be prepared for the unexpected. I really don’t think I could have done anything to better prepare myself. This is one of those things in life that you can’t truly prepare for other than by experiencing it and living in the moment.
Ames: Anything else you want to add?!
Drew: One of the crazier things is that Amy was having fairly heavy contractions when I got home from work, which was around 5:30pm, and she had been having them all afternoon. I had to convince her to call the doc, and when Amy provided the details, they instructed us to come in immediately. By 11pm, little Maxwell was with us on the outside. Everything progressed much more quickly than I anticipated, but even with that said, I think I could offer a detailed play-by-play of the entire night. Sir Maxwell has been our daily highlight ever since. Ames: That is true for me too! From everything I had read/experienced in clinicals, as a first time mama I thought I had plenty more time to labor at home. But we arrived at the hospital at 7pm and handsome Max was delivered at 11: 04. I’m glad that you were there to encourage me to call. I honestly have no idea how much longer I would’ve waited.
Thanks for reading and as always, if you have a post you want to see…send me a note! 😉 You can find all the other mama/baby posts on the updated BalancedBaby page!
Love, Ames and Drewbee