Hi friends! Happy Tuesday.
This little family has a big week this week. Drew and I will celebrate 3 years of marriage tomorrow. We’re taking the opportunity to sneak away to Lake Geneva for two nights to celebrate.
Drew is also going to come on the blog on Thursday to do a joint 3 year anniversary post. We did this last year, you can check it out here. 🙂 It’s been a while since he has been on, so I’m excited to see what he writes.
Yesterday I called him on the way to work. We had just seen each other at home, but I started thinking…”Oh man, this is going to be a really busy three days” and getting a little overwhelmed. We have a lawn to mow, a softball game to play, blogs to write, packing to do, work to work, working out to do, and a sweet baby to take care of.
But when we chatted it was easy to remind each other, “Okay, we will be busy. But, these are all amazing things and before you know it we’ll be in Lake Geneva together and able to slow down.”
We’re both excited for time just the two of us. Instead of exchanging gifts, we’re going to get massages, go to a fancy dinner, golf, and have two nights away. We’ll spend time nourishing our marriage.
Anyway, the beginning of this week will be a little whirlwind. Full.
It reminds me that we cannot do everything. Drew and I have found it nearly impossible to keep up with everything around the house, while being parents that work, workout, and try to get enough rest. My friend Lisa wrote an interesting blog post entitled Pick 3 about this, and I would invite you to read that. We both agreed that you could easily add taking care of your house to that list without adding a pick.
Maxwell’s favorite games right now are playing with any type of ball OR taking everything out of its place aka being a little destroyer. Whether it is toys, the bowls in the cabinet, food in the cabinet, his books, you name it. Everything goes right onto the floor as he sorts through the next thing. He picks the next thing up, looks at it, and then tosses it onto the floor.
One day my friend Cate and her mama came over and I found myself apologizing for our mess. “Please let your mom know that I’m sorry that our house is messy” was my text. When they came in, her mom sarcastically said, “Oh my gosh, this is horrible.” They laughed at me that I was worried about some toys scattered in the living room.
This was a great reminder for me to let go of apologizing for toys around the house, or even a kitchen with mail and the day’s work stuff and lunch containers spread out. So every time I want to say that now, I don’t. I stop. I think, this is my friend! If she cares that our house has toys strewn about, what type of friends are we?! I realized this will be our reality for the next few years, and it is a very happy reality. That we are blessed with little mischievous munchkins to go around and mess things up.
On a related note, I recently read an article that said, “TAKE THE HELP!” When out of the goodness of their heart, someone offers to lighten your load…take it! A perfect example is my sweet mother-in-law Robyn. Both of Drew’s parents will be the ones taking care of Maxwell for our little trip. When Robyn comes to town she always says, “What can I help with during Max’s naps?” She is so sincere about wanting to do something around the house. At first I felt kind of bad/weird about taking her up on her offers. She is already doing so much for us, why should she do more? But she was persistent and offered several times. So heck, if you want to spend his nap time cleaning our floors, thank you SO much.
Our friends always say: if you want a date night we would love to watch Max for you. Drew and I need to be better about taking them seriously and not feeling bad for taking them up on it. Instead we debate if they were serious or not.
It really does take a village. And we have a tremendous one around us. One that we are so darn lucky to have and one that I trust really wants to help us, so for us it is about learning to let them.
I love writing posts like this because I think too often we are on social media and there are mamas making everything look so darn perfect. The reality of it is that there are leaving out a little bit of the truth. Or maybe they have enough help that they are able to have a sparkly house, toned arms, perfectly dressed children, beautifully done hair and makeup.