Hi friends! Happy Thursday.
Can I just start by saying, if I hear “balance is a unicorn” one more time…I’m going to puke. HA!
Of course when I think of a balanced life, I don’t think it is going to be perfectly balanced. I don’t even know what that would look like or mean exactly. I think if you are in search of perfect balance, that probably is a unicorn.
But the idea of balance that I had when I started the blog was pretty simple: to live in a way that helped me to feel healthy, happy, and fulfilled. I was seeking the opposite of rushed, stressed, and overcommitted.
Make less time for things that don’t matter. The time drains around us are so real. From TV to social media, our generation really nickles and dimes ourselves out of time. Is this a problem for you? If I’m getting close to my bedtime and there is a show on that has sucked me in, I always pause and think: “What is this really doing for you? Does it really matter?” Typically the answer is no and I turn it off so I can get to bed on time.
Say no to things. Man oh man. What I saw when I initially started the blog I was motivated by people around me filling their plates to the BRIM and then feeling overwhelmed. Running from one thing to another. Even making their social events and their kid’s schedules jam packed to a stressful point. This is something that I’ve really tried to stay away from. I’m conscious about when I say yes to and what deserves a no. I’m not one of those people that is more filled up or thrives off of being busy. Of course I’ll want Max to participate in activities as he grows up, but I just don’t think he needs to do swim lessons and Little Gym just yet.
Prioritize. Maybe you have a weekly commitment on your calendar that isn’t really making you happy anymore. But it is routine, so you keep on going. I would take the time to take a step back and assess if you are really enjoying it and if it is bringing fulfillment to your life. Is your weekly scheduled jammed with work and social obligations every week? Do you have down time and time to make your family and health a priority?
Embrace the season you are in. I heard this on a podcast recently. The woman was saying: listen, you don’t have time to do it all. You have to realize what season you are in. Using my roles as an example for us: I’m a wife and mama first. Next I work 3 days a week as a nurse. Lastly, I run a blog that I post on two days a week, an Instagram that I post on close to daily, and I’m starting a business with my sister. These are things that I truly love and fulfill me, things that I prioritize. But that also probably means that I’m not going to have a lot of “extra” time to add more in. I forgo signing up for fitness classes, because it is faster for me to go to my gym or workout at home. I wouldn’t play sand volleyball during the summer anymore, because I know that doesn’t fuel me enough to take a weeknight away from my family. I wouldn’t commit to watching a show every week, because again I don’t want to commit a night to having something scheduled. I’m probably (actually for sure) not going to have the cleanest house on the block because I simply do not have the time to keep up with everything. This is my season. I embrace it (I really, really, really do love this phase of life) and acknowledge that I cannot do everything. I cannot jump at every invitation. And that’s okay. Actually, that helps me to feel more happy and less stressed.
The examples of questions that I’m giving are questions that help me make decisions. I hope you find some goodness in them too.
Ya’ll my first dip into email marketing did not go so well. So sorry if you experienced an issue! I am aware of them and fixed the kinks. If you did sign up, I will be sending out a polished and finished email soon 😉 That was a great example of trying to fit everything in and running short on time, so I learned from it!
Hope you have a wonderful weekend!