Hi friends! Happy Tuesday.
Maxwell was quite the handful over the weekend. He has a cold and we have to believe he is teething, because our sweet little baby has been a crab. 😉 Saturday night, nobody in this house was able to get much sleep. Since I had my last weekend of work, Drew was on daddy duty. Every bit of me wanted to be home helping, not because I doubted Drew’s ability to handle him…but because I would love to be there to help Drew and comfort Max. The good news is, we all got through it.
On Sunday, we were all exhausted. We had an early dinner, played with Max, and put him down for the night with a prayer that he would sleep better. Drew and I crawled into bed at 8pm. We held hands, cuddled, and watched an episode of Homeland. We kept telling each other how lucky and happy we were to be married to each other. My heart was melting for my husband in that moment.
Before we had Maxwell, we promised that we’d go on at least one date a month. I know we’ve fallen a little bit short of our goal. Last night, I went to dinner with one of my very best girlfriends. We were talking about how you have this idea about how things are going to be, but then the actual thing happens (becoming parents in this case) and it is different than you expected. Before Max, Drew and I thought we would need those dates away to recharge, reconnect, keep our marriage happy. What we’ve found is that as parents were relishing in the simple. The making dinner together dates after Max goes to bed. The cuddle sessions while catching one of our favorite shows. That spending time as a family of 3 and watching Maxwell at his happiest when he has both of our full attention.
This weekend we are leaving Maxwell in the good hands of his aunt and uncle to go on a date, so we do appreciate also getting out of the house. But, the point is to enjoy all the opportunities to connect and nourish our marriage between those out of the house dates. The everyday opportunities.
Ya’ll know I’ve been binge “reading” on the Audible App. You can try it free for a month (two free books) by using this link: Audible Free Trial
What I’m listening to right now is Ariana Huffington’s book Thrive: The Third Metric to Redefining Success and Creating a Life of Well-Being, Wisdom, and Wonder. I would highly recommend this book. What I love is that she gives many examples and statistics of how filling your schedule to the brim and overloading yourself with stress will have enormous mental and physical implications for you. Many people actually experience a breaking point, for her she passed out from exhaustion and ended up in a puddle of blood from hitting her head on the way down.
It’s so important that we all step back and think about really what we want and what we consider successful. I can tell you by working with many, many people at the end of their life that nobody talks about what kind of car they drove, what the square footage of their house was, or how many Instagram followers they had. What they talk about is their families, their friends, their experiences.
Two quotes from Ariana Huffington that I love, and that will give you an idea if it is for you:
- “Have you noticed that when we die, our eulogies celebrate our lives very differently from the way society defines success?”
- “Today we often use deadlines– real and imaginary to imprison ourselves.”
The second one spoke to me today. Since Maxwell is so very active and on the move, I’ve had less time to tick things off my to do list. This morning, this post was left undone and I was okay with that. Understanding that choosing to go to bed early on Sunday to cuddle with my husband, choosing to reconnect with a girlfriend at dinner last night, and choosing to give Maxwell all of my attention when he is awake is more important than getting this finished perfectly. See quote #2.
Hope ya’ll are taking care of yourselves and figuring out what is really important to you.