Happy Thursday. I hope you are all having a great week. I start 4 nursing shifts in a row starting today, with 2 more to follow next week. That will (very likely) be the end of my inpatient nursing career as I then transition into the outpatient world at the Carbone Cancer Center at UW Hospital. I’m excited, but I do feel sad to leave a job and coworkers I love. Being a working momma, the job change has come SO fast that I can hardly believe it is nearly here. I’m going to focus on soaking in my remaining time on B6/6: the unit that taught me how to be a nurse.
I had many inspirations and ideas for what to blog about today. I started and stopped about 10 times, I skipped around working on one subject and then feeling more of a calling to post about another. I’m thankful for this because there are times where I sit down to tap out a post on my laptop and I draw a blank.
The one that won out is the one you are about to read. It is SO important to me as a blogger and person to be honest and authentic. If I had ya’ll believing that I always get everything right, I would be doing it wrong. Because that’s not true, nor is it true for anyone.
Self reflection is something I love.
We all screw up from time to time and aren’t the best version of ourselves. We connect most to people that are vulnerable enough to open up and say, hey…I screwed up AND this is what I learned from it.
I was listening to Jenna Kutcher’s podcast (episode 15) the other week, she was revealing all of these truths about herself that she hadn’t shared before. It was bold! One was about body image. As a follower, I’ve always loved that she was vulnerable enough to share that she has struggles with body image and she has taken part in campaigns to help other women feel beautiful in their own body. Then she dropped a truth bomb that she has photo shopped herself to be smaller…I was like WAIT. WHAT?! I loved that she shared that. Because it could be SO easy to keep that secret, especially since she promotes things like #AerieReal campaign to empower women to embrace their imperfections. But she swallowed her pride to say, even though I’ve improved in my body image I’m not perfect at it.
As the author of this blog I deeply believe in supporting and empowering women and stumbled on that journey yesterday. That’s embarrassing to admit and I wish I would’ve handled the situation differently, but it’s the truth. I won’t get into the details, but I let my emotions get the best of me. Instead of taking time to pause, reflect, wait…I fired off like 5 text messages in a row because my feelings were hurt. I don’t think there is anything wrong with letting a friend know that something has upset you, but I do think you should wait until the emotional charge has left. This way you’ll have to to reflect for yourself and if you still are upset you’ll be able to clearly articulate why if hit the pause button before responding/reacting. Most of the message is in the delivery anyhow.
The reactionary response is human. Drew and I call it “popping off”. It can be in the form of those paragraph text messages to a friend, or it can be some unkind words or impatience toward your spouse. Those things you say or attitude you give that aren’t necessary.
In my friend Taylor’s book: Leave Better Than Found he talks about how if a player or parent is upset about playing time, they have to wait 24 hours before addressing it with him. Why? Because right after a game it is easy to be emotionally charged on both sides and say something you don’t really mean. Your feelings are AMPLIFIED at that time.
I LOVE this idea for life. If you find yourself upset with a friend or a coworker, why not wait to address it until the immediate quell of emotion has subsided for 24 hours. It’s probably not realistic that I’ll wait 24 hours before saying something to my husband, but I could wait 5 minutes and decide if it really needs to be said.
During the stumbles it is all about what you learned. Another thing I wish I would’ve done was to pause to think: why am I feeling this way? Why is this evoking such an emotional response? Am I making this more than it is?
After you pause you might be thinking heck yeah! I am mad and need to talk this out. Or you might find yourself feeling differently the next day. Either way, I think it is worth the wait rather than saying something OR delivering your message in a way you’ll regret.
I officially finished Present Over Perfect: Leaving Behind Frantic for a Simpler, More Soulful Way of Living and did love the middle and end as much as the beginning. Highly recommend it!
I also just started and finished Girl Code: Unlocking the Secrets to Success, Sanity, and Happiness for the Female Entrepreneur. As I mentioned I’ve been using the Audible App and thus devouring books (legit listened to this one in a day and would highly recommend it). Audible is a great option for me because I can listen while taking care and playing with Maxwell OR on my commute to work, if you want to try it for free you can use this link: Try Audible and Get Two Free Audiobooks. The author Cara Alwill Leyba says in the introduction: “I am witnessing a phenomenon. It seems as though a growing group women entrepreneurs all around the world has discovered the secret to success and happiness in both their lives and careers. It’s almost as though there is a hidden, underground world of power playing females who have all cracked a magical code: they think positively, they support one another, and they truly believe they can have it all —and you can, too. There is something dynamic that happens when women genuinely show up for each other. When we lose the facades, when we cut the bullsh*t, and when we truly have each others backs. When we stop pretending everything is perfect, and we show the messy, beautiful parts of ourselves and our work that all look awfully similar. When we talk about our fears, our missteps, and our breakdowns. And most importantly, when we share our celebrations, our breakthroughs, and dish on what works. There is no reason to hoard information, connections, or insight. Wisdom is meant to be shared, so let’s start sharing what we’ve learned to make each other better. Let’s start building each other up. Let’s live up to our potential and start ruling the world. GIRL CODE is a roadmap for female entrepreneurs, professional women, “side hustlers” (those with a day job who are building a business on the side), and anyone in between who wants to become a better woman.”
LOVE THOSE WORDS. She is also very honest in how she didn’t always feel that way and how she still has to pause and get back on track today.
Not perfect by any stretch over here, but looking to improve and realizing that your wrong sometimes …that’s part of the key. 🙂
Hope everyone has a wonderful weekend!
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