Hi friends! Happy Thursday!
You guys…I wrote this blog WELL ahead of time. Praise the Lord!
In 2017, I’m relying on my old friend Mr. Time Chunking to help me to be more productive and organized. I’ve been setting the timer on my iPhone for 25 minute chunks. During that time I make myself focus on whatever task is most important or up next. I also make sure that I don’t get interrupted by social media, a snack, or going to the bathroom during that time BUT I DO let Maxwell interrupt me (aka wake up from his nap).
Speaking of Maxwell, oh my goodness! He has been a sick little guy this week. He had an unremitting fever requiring Tylenol round the clock (which he hates) and he refused to be put down for about 30 hours. It probably sounds silly, but I always put myself in his little shoes. I can imagine been snuggled up to my momma would feel really good if I couldn’t communicate exactly what I needed. So there I was, on a recliner for hours on end holding him. Soaking in his cuddly sick time, ALTHOUGH I have to admit there were times where I was scared myself and did spill tears because I was worried about him and wanted to take it all away. It was stressful for Drew and I, and I didn’t stay as balanced or level headed as I would’ve hoped to. Since his fevers were so persistent, they did want us to bring him in last night. He looked well which was great to hear, but after examination the doctor didn’t know what was causing the fevers and we’ll have to bring him back in if they continue for another 24 hours. He seems better and was playing yesterday, so I’m hopeful they’ll break really soon.
Empowered women, empower women
I’ve been thinking SO much about how to empower people (I think 99% of the people that read the blog are women//+ the other 1% are my husband, brother, + dad) + what makes me feel empowered. I came up with a few key points and quotes that I try my best to live by:
“Be someone that makes people feel like someone.”
Be generous with compliments (I LOVE this past blog post I wrote). Whether it is over social media OR in person, I always make sure to say the positive things that I’m thinking. Because heck, who doesn’t want to hear something positive? It’s really funny because when you do it in person, people tend to almost get weirded out…I think it is that rare nowadays. Example: I’ll tell my coworker something like, “Carolyn, I really enjoy working with you. You are just so sweet + we’re lucky to have you as a nurse on this floor.” or “Holly, I always loved giving you report in the morning after nightshift. You always greet people with a smile + are understanding if we’re not able to get to something after a crazy morning.” I picked this habit up from my dad, who always uses people’s first names and greets them warmly.
Do not get dragged down by your past. As humans, it is our job to grow and develop. No one is who they were 10 years ago. Drew and I were just talking about how it is crazy that college was a decade ago and how we’ve been together for 6 years now! Where are you going time?! Our personalities and priorities change a ton as we continue to grow, and I believe we eventually have to forgive ourselves and not get held back by past mistakes. Also– social media (a la Facebook) is SO funny because here we have gathered a collection of friends over many different life experiences. I know that guy that is now posting pictures of his baby is NOT the same guy I knew in college. The past is the past– I love seeing people with fresh eyes and giving them a chance, because I would hope they would do the same for me.
Show up. If you have a friend/sister/mother that needs you, try your best to be there. I know it isn’t always possible, but it means the world. I just took care of a patient recently that was having a grown up sleepover with one of his best buddies from college. He just kept saying how much it meant to have someone to be able to pass the hospital days with and how much it meant to him that his friend was sleeping next to him on a cot. His wife needed to be at home caring for their littles, so it was a blessing.
Whether your friend is a new mommy and you can go over there to bring her lunch and hold her baby while she showers…or she is giving a speech and you can be there with your kind / reassuring eyes…GO! 🙂
Reach out. I’ve said this in the past, but it is SO sweet when people send me a personal email after reading a post. I make sure to respond as soon as I can because they did me the honor of 1) reading my blog, 2) taking the time out of their day to shoot me an email. Send a note to someone that has been on your mind, it will surely bring a smile to their face.
“A rising tide lifts all boats.” -JFK I’ve talked about the Rising Tide Society before, so ya’ll know I love their message and going to the gatherings. BUT, what I love the most is seeing people that are LIVING OUT THIS QUOTE. Most of my best Rising Tide friends are wedding photographers (could see each other as competitors), but they cheer each other on so hard and refer to each other whenever possible. It’s a great to witness. I’ve had several girlfriends reach out about being inspired to start a blog and I always tell them to go for it! There are enough blog readers to go around and our messages are not the same, each gal will find her tribe and I’m here to help her do that!
As I always say, these blog posts are the perfect little reminders for ME too! 🙂 Always room to improve and spread the empowerment. Give someone a compliment today to help spread the joy.
Hope everyone has a terrific weekend!