Hi friends! Happy Thursday.
Very happy Thursday over here because I get my husband back today! Drew doesn’t have to travel for work very often + all 3 of us are thankful for that. Missing him makes me appreciate him even more + taking care of our busy little baby by myself…left me little time to workout or blog. 😉
Power of Positivity
I LOVE filling my mind with positivity. I turn to podcasts + read books that will help train me to be more resilient in challenging or stressful times. Do you have ways that help you work on your mental resilience? Words can have a great influence over us + I’ve learned various strategies to help myself stop a negative string of thoughts or reason myself through a stressful circumstance.
Leave Better Than Found, a book written by my friend Taylor is one that I’ll open if I need a pep talk. I’ve shared before that I read it in about a day. In the book, Taylor shared an old Chinese proverb in the chapter entitled Positive Mental Attitude:
Be careful of your thoughts, for your thoughts become your words. Be careful of your words, for your words become your actions. Be careful of your actions, for your actions become your habits. Be careful of your habits, for your habits become your character. Be careful of your character, for your character becomes your destiny.
YES to this. It starts with our thoughts. Think about the benefits we could experience if we train our minds to stop or lessen the negative thoughts we have.
It doesn’t happen overnight. It takes effort. Believe me, I know. But, your mind is like a muscle. You can train it.
I took this next part from a previous post, because I still love it:
Is the voice in your head more positive or more negative?
It’s our own voice that we hear the most each and everyday. And we typically believe our own. If you are constantly telling yourself negative things, if you haven’t already you will start to believe them. If you catch yourself going down a negative thought train, pause and evaluate if your thoughts have truth. One thing I really like to do is come up with a few positives on the spot.
Example: Walking into work sometimes I’ll be thinking, I really wish I could be home with Maxwell. I miss him. I pause + then think: I’m lucky I have such a great job that allows me to take care of people + to work part-time. Being able to bring home pay, benefits, + a healthy retirement contribution is important for our family. It is good for Maxwell to be around other people, to grow + develop.
How do you talk to yourself?
A lot of the time we are way more critical of ourselves than we are of others. We say things to ourselves that we would never say out loud to anyone else (or at least I hope you wouldn’t). I’m so fat, I’m so stupid, I cannot believe I made that mistake…no one else would make that mistake. If you wouldn’t say it to someone else, you have to love yourself enough to not say it to yourself.
A personal example of how I had to train myself to think positively is my pregnancy body image. When my sister or friends were pregnant, I showered them with compliments and meant them! I think pregnancy and baby bumps are so beautiful. When my own body started to expand, especially when my regular clothes stopped fitting I would sometimes look in the mirror and think I look so big today. People also apparently have free rein during pregnancy to say anything they want about how big or small you look for where you are in your pregnancy (I want to do an entire blog on how to talk to pregnant people as a PSA). When I start to say something negative to myself or someone else makes a negative comment, I make a very quick change in my mind to my positive pregnancy manta: Your baby is growing. He or she is getting bigger and stronger by the day, getting ready to come out and meet you. You are eating well, you are exercising, your baby is healthy! For me, that makes everything better. It truly works and I use positive self-talk all day everyday about this and other subjects. (AW, love this! Go pregnant Ames!)
Are you letting others change your perspective on yourself?
I loved this quote from the sermon, “Ultimately, we have to take responsibility. We’re the ones that make the decision on the voices we’re going to listen to and agree with, and the ones we are going to push out and disagree with.”
It is my hope for you that you are loving on yourself. Talking to yourself kindly and letting positive mantas run through your head. Negativity and bullying ourselves doesn’t help anything, so we might as well find a way to be positive. 😉