Hi friends! Happy Wednesday.
I’m SO excited for this post today. After sharing my birth story here (still tears when I reread it) I had many women reach out + tell me they felt empowered by it. I thought, why not bring more women on to tell their story? The hope is to inspire + empower.
I met Kelsey at a TuesdaysTogether event in Madison. I loved her energy + somehow within 5 minutes of meeting we were telling each other our birth stories. You guys, I love hearing birth stories! Each birth story is unique + each baby makes his or her way into the world a little bit different. I asked if she would come onto the blog + share with everyone!
I loved this quote from Kelsey: One of the most important things for moms to do is process their own birth stories. Whatever your experience: non medicated, c-section, adoption, epidural, painful, joyful, frightening… your body did one of the most natural things it was intended to do. I think women need support and space to talk about this pivotal experience, and celebrate the strength that are women!
Here is how baby Cole arrived as told by his momma:
I can do this. I will do this. That was my mantra for nearly 10 months as I prepared for and birthed my little sweetheart. About a month before I had Cole, my husband Mark made a bowl of birth affirmations for me. Little sayings with photos of us on each card (most of which made me cry!) Everyday I woke up and chose a new affirmation and read it to myself. Mark knew when I was having mornings of uncertainty, those nowaythisisn’tgoingtohappen moments. He made me read the affirmation again, in the mirror, with conviction. He was certain that I could give birth in the way I desired. And it was hard, and it was beautiful. I’m so excited to share my birth story with you, and thanks Amy for including me on your blog!
There was a running feeling that Cole was going to come early because he “was big” on the ultrasounds. I was anxious about his early arrival and I could barely wait. And the days came, and my lovebug did not. And my due date came, and he was still cozy. I started a “what to do when you’re overdue” series in my life and everyday did something new after our due date. I tried acupuncture, tried every wives tale for induction, opened a Cosco membership (yey!), and overall just tried to stay focused. I was devastated that Cole didn’t arrive on time. (They say those due dates are just suggestions, but if you’re like me, my life revolved around that date!) Our doctor scheduled an induction seven days after my original due date. I felt really disappointed that I had to be induced, but I was anxious for the process to start.
We arrived at the hospital at 7:30am, nearly leaping out of ourselves in excitement. When we checked in, the receptionist said, and what are you here for? We nearly shouted, to have a baby! I had a Misoprostol pill to ripen my cervix, and just waited. Mark and I played cribbage, I watched a lot of Bravo television and napped. I was having contractions for nearly 10 hours but the weren’t strong or long enough. I got a dose of Pitocin which was what my body needed to finish going into labor. I had contractions for about eight hours. Our doula arrived and I felt peace. I remember seeing her quietly come into the room, set up some lights, and instantly I felt like the support from Mark and her would push me through this. I have a huge amount of respect, admiration, and love for our doula Alli, and for the profession. The support I received gave me the birth experience I desired and I wouldn’t do it without a doula support again!
Cole’s nearly 17 months now and an active, curious, adventerous, still-nursing before bedtime boy. In a few months, I’m due again with another little boy. I’m back in the ohnothatbabycanstayinthereforever stage but I know in a deep place in myself, I can and will birth this baby in a beautiful way. I am certain my heart will explode from loving two little babies!