Hi friends! Happy Thursday.
I finished this post up on the porch as Maxwell slept in his stroller. We went for a run + of course he fell asleep at the very end. It ended up being perfect because he kept right on sleeping + I grabbed my laptop to tap the rest of this post out. The two of us really soaked in the beautiful fall day.
Side note: You guys, I just purchased a TRX! Have you used these before? Back in my Chicago personal training days I took the TRX certification course + loved utilizing this piece of equipment with my clients/for myself. Now that I’ve been working out at home (more than expected) I want to start expanding my home gym (I made recommendations in this post). TRXs are really nice because you can put it up anywhere, for example I can put it up outside on one of my trees + workout there. I promise I’m going to do blog posts showing you guys workouts, so if you want to join me order the TRX Suspension Trainer Basic Kit + Door Anchor (I got a “like new” used one to save a little moola). It will be here by Friday because we love Amazon Prime, so you’ll probably see if pop up on my Instagram soon! (highly recommend Prime to everyone – Try Amazon Prime 30-Day Free Trial). A few very sweet readers suggested that I start doing more posts showing what I do for workouts + I’m happy to oblige!
Onto the post of the day…
On Monday Drew + I were talking about my blog. You all know by now that he is such a big supporter of BalancedAmes. He has written posts, edited posts, came up with ideas for posts, + he is always willing to snap a picture or two (literally like two…I don’t push it).
On Monday, he said “I think you should share some weird things about yourself that people don’t know”. I said, “What is weird about me?” He deferred.
As I thought more about it, I decided I did want to share more about my personality. I thought this was a good way for you guys to understand me + the blog posts better.
I’m a complete type B, non-perfectionist soul. People that are self described perfectionists seem to wear it as a badge of honor, so why shouldn’t I be able to start a non-perfectionist movement? 🙂
This attribute comes in handy a lot, but one could argue it also has its downfalls. I’m going to choose to see it as a blessing…because it isn’t changing anytime soon.
Type B personalities can get a bad rap. This doesn’t mean that I’m not hard working or driven, but I do have different outlooks + goals than some of my Type A counterparts. During my review at work my nurse manager was trying to convince me that I would make a great nurse manager + should go back to school to pursue that. I think this is mainly because I love giving/getting feedback, am highly interested in helping to improve the culture of our unit, + believe in a open communication workplace. I thanked her for the compliment, but told her I wanted to work less, not more. She took pause at that response (she knows she works a lot) + then said something like, oh yeah…you + your work life balance. 🙂
I thought it would be fun to share a couple of examples with you all. I follow a couple southern bloggers + really get tempted to say ya’ll right there.
If you come over to our house, you would be greeted with a warm welcome…+ you would walk into to see a very lived in house. I’m not a neat or organized person. In fact, I watched a video on my friend’s wall alluding to how husbands leave the cabinets open. That’s me! It drives Drew nuts + he is the way neater one. I guess I serve as a good reminder to not assign gender roles. I have friends that cannot go to bed if they have a messy house, but you’ll find me tucked into bed at 9:30pm with plenty of house things undone able to fall fast asleep. This is one area that I do want to improve in, so I’m committing one of Maxwell’s naps to cleaning on my off days. On my days at work, I can only commit to cleaning up after that particular day (loading the dishwasher, putting my clothes in the laundry room, picking up after me + Max).
When I go on vacation, I think half of the fun is to figure out what you are going to do when you get there. Of course I would plan some of the bigger details, but I strongly believe in asking the locals where is the best hiking spots or dinner places are. I do not find it stressful to just go + figure it out, in fact it is just the opposite…I hate when a vacation has an itinerary because I want there to be wiggle room for adjustments or lazy days.
This whole mom business. Drew + I didn’t read a single book or take a class to prepare for Maxwell. I clicked on a couple of pins along the way + read some blog posts. This is the same way I prepared for natural birth, watched a couple documentaries to pump myself up + believed that it had to be mind over matter (I did mentally prepare). The only thing I may have changed was to take a breastfeeding course. That way I probably would’ve realized that my nipple pain was more than the expected a lot sooner (before it was crying through the nursing session). Everything else we’ve really been able to figure out as we go, asking our friends + family questions along the way.
One place the non-perfectionist thing really works out is with my body image. I’ve only recently made the connection that my confidence impart probably stems from the “you are good enough” personality that I have. When I look at myself, I see a beautiful + happy person. I don’t get caught up in the comparison game or the I want to have shredded abs game. Healthy, strong, confident is my motto. I know several of my friends that are amazingly beautiful women (also bloggers) are working to improve their self confidence + they are admittedly perfectionists. This has lead me to believe there has to be a link. I wish I could help them see what everyone else sees or gift them with some confidence.
I’m not hard on myself. Drew + I kind of laugh about this one. It isn’t that I have low expectations or that I’m easily satisfied, but I also don’t think it is necessary to beat myself up about things. A great example is this blog. When I started blogging my little heart out (BalancedAmes will turn 2 in March) there would be times when 25 people would read the post (probably all my friends + family). I was putting a lot of work into those early posts. Instead of seeing it as a failure, I saw it as a starting point. If I received one email or compliment on a post, I took that as a reason to keep going. I would be SO excited when someone I didn’t know would reach out + tell Drew all about it. By no means is my blog huge now, but it has grown a lot + I do still get excited to hear from you guys…it just isn’t as shocking any more! 🙂
We can all coexist. I’m married to a strong type A personality + I’m pretty darn type B. We cannot get enough of each other. 🙂 I remember having this conversation during our pre-marital counseling through our church about how he is very detail oriented + doesn’t like to adjust plans, so he would get frustrated by my “willy nilly” personality that he finds somewhat haphazard. Over the years, we’ve grown more accepting of each other’s personality traits. This isn’t to say that we don’t still get frustrated with each other at times (just last night…haha), but we’ve found a way to mostly embrace it. In fact, we do think it is a really great balance for our relationship.
Are you guys Type A or Type B? Or a mix?!
Have a great weekend! See you back next week. Xo. Ames