Hi friends! Happy Tuesday.
Yesterday, I turned 30! Drew + I both took the day off to spend together + with Maxwell. We love celebrating birthdays over here + Drew planned a very special day.
He handed me my birthday present as soon as I woke up. Inside his sweet card were cards that had the whole day planned out (accompanied by little pictures he drew): breakfast at my favorite place, time with Maxwell, a manicure/pedicure momma break, workout time, family pictures, + a romantic date night.
I love that we had Tara capture this special time in our life: me turning 30 + us being completely enamored with our first baby. I have a bevy of talented photographer friends in the Madison area if anyone is looking + it is easy for us to recommend Tara!
It is safe to say I feel incredibly blessed to have Drew as my husband + partner in parenting. Thank you for making me feel special not only on our big days, but everyday.
Today, I only had to work 4 hours at the hospital. Immediately I thought of being able to pick up Maxwell early from daycare. Drew gently encouraged me to take time for myself. Time to blog + workout. He reminded me that it was good for Max to spend time at daycare in order for him to stay in a routine. Even this balance blogger needs reminders to stay balanced + take a pause to do the things that I enjoy.
I wanted to share some things I’ve learned from being on the earth 30 years. I’m sure in the coming years I’ll be able to add to this list.
- Aging is a blessing. Working on a cancer floor, I fully embrace + thank the Lord for each day. I’m always going to say my age loud + proud. I’m 3-0!
- That being said, 30 is not old. I used to think of 30 as this distant milestone. It doesn’t feel as old as it once sounded. I feel better physically, emotionally, + mentally than ever.
- Thank you mom + dad. If you are lucky enough to have your parents around, don’t forget to show your appreciation. It is as easy as giving them a big hug, telling them you love them, calling + making plans to see them. The overwhelming love that we have for Maxwell has taught me a lot about a parent’s love + dedication to their children. I love you guys to the moon + thank you for everything you have done + continue to do.
- Everyone is on their own journey. At this age, I have friends that are single. Friends that are on their 4th child. Friends that are traveling the world. Friends that are going through divorce. Friends that are tindering their hearts out. Friends that don’t know what tinder is. Friends that are going back to school. What I’m trying to say here is there is no “normal” place to be at any age. Love your friends + family for where they are.
- Eat healthfully + exercise. This is one of the main themes of this blog + my life. I just cannot emphasize enough what a positive difference it makes in your personality, health, + happiness.
- Careful with your words. Are you pregnant? The old joke is not to ask unless you literally see a baby coming out of a woman. I just cringe when a postpartum coworker tells a story about someone asking her if she is currently pregnant. This happens OFTEN. Another one: When are you going to have kids? After having a few close friends struggle to get pregnant + some struggling with infertility, I’ve realized that these simple questions can cause hurt for those that are already on a roller coaster each month. (Side note: I’m going to be doing a few blog posts on different paths people take to having a baby. Though infertility is not something we experienced, I want to bring a message of support from those that know it best. It is an important subject + one close to my the heart). These are just two examples + a reminder for all of us to be careful with our words + assumptions.
- Going to bed at 9:30 pm is completely reasonable. I would every single day if I could. This is actually a recurring disagreement in our marriage. One of us wants to go to bed at 9:30 pm even on the weekend + one of us would rather live a little some nights. 😉 I’m the best version of myself if I get enough sleep, so I’m not one to skimp on it. Yes, even with a baby.
- Grow. Evolve. Never stop wanting to better yourself on all fronts. A quote that my friend + I love: “Either you’re growing or you’re decaying; there’s no middle ground. If you’re standing still, you’re decaying.” -Alan Arkin
- Don’t waste your time convincing others that you’ve grown + evolved. I spent too much of my 20s in a party girl phase. I’ll be the first to admit that + that is the impression that I’ve left on a lot of people. But, I’ve grown, learned, evolved from that part of my life. The people who matter the most realize + appreciate this growth, so it isn’t worth my time trying to convince others of this evolution or worrying about what people think.
- The best support you can give someone is a listening ear. I do blog a lot of advice, but in my personal + professional relationships I’m very much a listener. Sometimes we don’t have the answers for our friends, families, or patients…but, we can sit + intently listen to their struggle. That alone can be what they need. And when someone is confiding in you, DON’T just start to share your problems too. That is very much not supportive.
- Do not give unsolicited parenting advice. Seriously, don’t do it. It isn’t helpful for you to suggest to a momma that her baby is hungry. She a) knows + is planning to take care of it, b) you aren’t right.
- Keep the important things important. This is the point I’ll end with. Your words, actions, + how you spend your time are a reflection of what is important to you. It is important to take an honest look at what your life is saying is important to you.
Last night at dinner Drew asked me what I wanted to accomplish this year. One of the things I brought up was growing the blog + working on making it a revenue stream for our family. Thank you all for reading/sharing/emailing/contributing/watching the blog evolve. It brings me great joy to hear that it has a positive impact on people’s days.
Your 30-year-old blogger,