Hi friends! Happy Tuesday!
I love doing monthly updates on Maxwell. I just went back + read his 2 Month Update for comparison.
I’m going to do a separate post with an updated + comprehensive baby registry! I’ve had lots of newly pregnant mommy friends asking for recommendations + readers told me how helpful this Surviving the First Month With a Newborn + The Gear We Recommend post was. I’m learning more + more about what works for us + with each new experience (ex. I’m now a pumping/working momma). I can completely relate if you are feeling a little baby registry overwhelmed because I had no idea what we needed! Look for that post soon!
3 Month Update
Drew said to me the other night: “I wouldn’t mind if he stayed at this stage forever.” Which summarizes how we feel about this month. Max turned this corner + became much easier to care for. During his awake time, he can now be put down for more than 5 minutes without crying 😉 He is very content, smiles a ton, + is sleeping well.
Daycare: If you’ve been following along you know that Max has started daycare. We did a practice day the week before I started back at work + I (again) highly recommend this. It made things much easier emotionally when my first day back to work came. He has been doing amazing at daycare! They always tell me how happy + content he is. Each time I go pick him up I can tell he is completely comfortable + smiling away at the caretakers.
Bottle drinking: There was a phase a few weeks ago when Max was completely rejecting bottles. We started giving him bottles of breastmilk around 3 weeks as recommended by the lactation consultant. To the excitement of Drew + I he took them right away, so we weren’t exactly expecting this bottle stubbornness to arise. Everyone told us to keep at it. When Max headed to his first day of daycare I was worried because he still wasn’t doing great with the bottles from Drew. Daycare reported he did well the first day (I think they were being a bit generous). His second week one of his caretakers excitedly told me he did WAY better with the bottle + now he is taking them from daddy again like a champ. I wanted to add this in because it was a big stressor for me + I know other mommas + daddies go through this. Although I knew he wouldn’t starve to death, I also didn’t want him to be hungry/fussy for whomever would be caring for him. I wish I had a big secret to share that turned things around, but it was persistence + the wonderful ladies at daycare! I kept telling myself: this isn’t their first rodeo with a babe that is stubborn with the bottle.
Sleep: Max made it all the way through the night the last two nights without waking up from 8:30pm – 5:00am. I hope this is the new normal, but he typically wakes up once around 3:30 am to feed. He is very quick about it + I can be back in bed in 15 minutes. Someone asked about Max’s bedtime routine because he is a good sleeper and truthfully Drew + I have always been easy going about it. We get him in jammies around 7:30, I breastfeed him at 8pm, he has about 15 minutes of interactive time, then either mommy or daddy snuggles him + rocks him to sleep. He usually goes down at 8:30pm. As he started to get older, he naturally started going to bed earlier + we just followed his lead. Drew + I also love the special time with him at the end of the day when we get to rock him to sleep, but we can also put him down when he is sleepy + he’ll suck his thumb until he drifts off.
Schedule: Maxwell eats, has awake/play/interaction time, naps, + repeats all day. He is typically awake anywhere from 1-2 hours + his naps range anywhere from 45 minutes – 2 hours.
Development: He is a busy little bee! Always moving around. Smiling, cooing, babbling, getting close to rolling, his head control is much better, he tracks us with his eyes until we are out of sight, he sucks his thumb for comfort (much prefers his thumb to a nook, which we used to offer in the car), + he is learning to grab things with both hands. He also STARES at new people for an extremely long time, which is fun to watch. We love watching him learn 🙂
Overall, we love, love, love this stage + Maxwell. My coworker mommas just kept telling me: make it to 6 weeks + it gets easier! For Max, I would say the first 8 weeks he was demanding. He just didn’t like to be put down + had a nighttime fussiness period. After 8 weeks it just kept getting easier + easier. We know there are plenty of stages + challenges ahead, but we’re going to make sure to soak this one in.
Postpartum Update: I feel great + all the way healed. I’m still working on strengthening the abdominal muscles that cute little Max stretched out, but I know that takes time. I waited until 8 weeks to start doing abdominal exercises + then listened to a physical therapist who told me where to start + how to progress them.
Sex: Goodness, there is a lot of healing that needs to occur down below before you feel ready for this! It is so important to communicate to your partner + be honest. I also recommend getting checkout by a women’s health physical therapist! I’m a huge advocate for that + just read an article about how we should make it a routine part of women’s health. I can tell you each week you feel more healed, so in my opinion there was no need to rush it. We began at 7.5 weeks + I can tell you I was SO nervous the first time. Drew was very sweet about checking in with me + making sure I was okay. The next week I felt more healed + sex was even more enjoyable. Sexual health is a big part of health, so I didn’t want to leave this out because it would make a couple people blush. 😉
Weight: When I stepped on the scale last week I was 3.5 pounds away from pre-pregnancy weight. I’ve mentioned that the first 30 pounds came off quickly + the last 10 were a slow work in progress. The weight loss hasn’t been my focus, but it has been an encouraging result of healthy eating + returning to exercise. I’m an enormous advocate of listening to your bodies mommas! In the beginning, I constantly felt hungry because Max was eating all the time + my body was busy recovering. If I was hungry I ate + this meant I would usually have a snack in the middle of the night during one of these feedings. Eventually, Max started sleeping better + I no longer felt hungry in the middle of the night…so I stopped that snack. I’m not a macro or calorie counter, I strive to make healthy decisions 90% of the time + I listen to my body. My friend Katie asked me what I eat on Instagram + I did a couple what I eat blogs here + here. I also told her I only eat sweets + fried food on occasion + in the last year I’ve literally had 2 drinks containing alcohol (both on our first date after baby). These are places where I save on calories.
Going back to work… was a big transition, but I can tell you it is going really well! My coworkers are completely supportive + encouraging about pumping + that really helps! As a nurse it can be a bit challenging to find the time to leave the floor, but when my boobs hit a certain point of fullness…I know I need to go. There were already 2 times that I forgot a piece for the pump (thank the good Lord that I work in a hospital that has these parts), so I’m going to keep a full set of everything at work in case that happens again! Work days are super busy: I get up at 5am, feed Max when he wakes up or by 5:30am, leave for work at 6:05am, pick Max up from daycare around 4:15pm, + then it is mommy time until he goes to sleep. If I’ve worked out on my work days it has been in the dining room or a run, I look to circuit training to make the most of my time. Emotionally, I’ve been doing better than expected. It helps that I have a busy job that I like + coworkers that are supportive. It was also really nice to have Drew home this past weekend while I worked because I get a bunch of pictures + videos of Max 🙂 Huge thank you to my husband for being super daddy while I work, both taking care of Max + helping with a bunch of household chores!
Hope you guys have a terrific week! I’d like to encourage people to keep asking questions via Instagram or email + I’ll keep trying to address them during blog posts!