Hi friends! Happy Monday!
We cannot believe that we’ve been blessed with Maxwell for a month now! It has been an absolute whirlwind, as I’m sure many parents can attest to. If you missed his birth story you can read it here + my birth mindset blog here. Of course I made him model for a little 1 month photoshoot after bribing him to be content with breastmilk…haha! 😉
They told us there is no love like the love you feel for your very own baby. Drew + I would definitely agree. It is more than we could ever have imagined. We are still fawning over everything Maxwell does + Drew requests several pictures a day while at work.
I believe in being as honest as possible when blogging. It would be easy for me to just highlight all the wonderful parts of being Maxwell’s momma. There are SO many of those, but I want to also acknowledge that there are times when it is challenging.
I reflected + came up with 5 tips that helped me get through the newborn stage:
- Get out of the house. With a brand new baby this can be challenging, but I found that even just a walk a day was SO great for my mindset. In the beginning I would try to pack him up when he was about to take a nap + go! Or we would wait for Drew to get home from work + go as a family. Now that he is a bit older (+ taking breastmilk bottles from daddy) I can sneak away for a little bit longer + by MYSELF if I think that would be best. I head to the gym or run an errand + reset.
- Work as a team. Drew has been incredible this month. He is truly a partner in parenting. There have been a few times when one or both of us gets stressed + a few times that we were very short with each other. After one of these moments in particular, we came together afterward + talked about how we really have to stick together when the going gets tough. I’ve been very honest + open in communicating when I need a little break when he gets home or when it would help for Max to get a bottle of breastmilk. Also a huge thank you to my friends Carrie + Natalie, they have come over + instead of simply visiting they have TAKEN over. They each told me to go shower or do whatever I needed to do! SO helpful + sweet of them.
- Get help when you think you might need it. I’ve been really open about our breastfeeding struggles. It would not have improved if we hadn’t gone to the lactation consultant + started on the road to getting Max’s tongue clipped. I just had a feeling that my pain was more than general nipple soreness that most mommas experience. During the worst of it, I felt anxious when it was getting close to his feeding time + there were a couple times where I spilled tears as he fed. I would highly recommend calling your healthcare provider or reaching out to fellow mommies if your gut is telling you the you or your little one needs some extra attention!
- Take naps. As the old saying goes “nap when your baby naps”. Well, in the newborn stage that would be quite a bit of naps. In the morning Max usually takes a nice long nap from about 8-10am. I sleep during this time too! I will sometimes set my alarm for 9am, so I can get a couple things done toward the end of his nap time. It would be easy to want to tackle a bunch of things or work on the blog, but I remind myself I will be more sane if I indulge in the sleep!
- Acknowledge that it’s okay to be overwhelmed! It’s going to happen! For me, breastfeeding is a great example. As a breastfeeding momma, this little one needs me every 2-3 hours. As I wrote on Instagram, you mostly just hear about the beautiful side of breastfeeding. The bonding. Few people mention how overwhelming it can be to be their little lifeline. Maxwell + I also experienced lots of hurdles to add to the challenge. There have been times when I stand in the mirror after a much needed shower looking at myself with lopsided boobs + leaking nipples, and I feel like a little bit of a mess. I needed to give myself grace when I struggled through the first couple public breastfeeds or when I get milk all over my baby’s head. I always remind myself that it will be okay + I stare at his sweet little face. If all else fails, I let daddy take over + let myself have a little bit of a break!
For the rest of the blog I want to talk about what we REALLY need to take care of Max. If you are anything like me I had no clue what I would need. I based my registry on recommendations from friends, + also copied a fellow blogger’s registry!
The thing is, everyone is different + every baby is different! These are my recommendations + what works for Maxwell, Drew, + I.
As I’ve mentioned in the past, my biggest recommendation is an Amazon Registry. The highlights include: easy to navigate site, HUGE selection compared to other stores, easy returns, 15% off remaining items at the end. I also highly recommend Try Amazon Prime 30-Day Free Trial">Prime! When the babe is so new it is way easier to Prime something than run out to the store. If you don’t know about Prime, essentially you can order things from Amazon + they come super fast with free shipping Start your registry here: Shop Amazon – Create an Amazon Baby Registry
Medela Freestyle Breast Pump: I needed to use this in the early days at home, so I would highly recommend getting it before hand! At first, Max wasn’t able to take my left breast due to my anatomy issues. I absolutely love this pump because it doesn’t need to be plugged in, which allows me to not have to worry about being near an outlet + allows me to move around.
Medela Breastmilk Bottle Set: These have worked perfect for Max! He took his first bottle of breastmilk just after 3 weeks + we’re not looking back. It gives momma a little break (although I still have to pump) + gives daddy a bonding opportunity that he loves.
Medela Freestyle Spare Parts Kit: Unless you want to sanitize after every pumping session, it’s important to have extra pumping parts.
Medela Quick Clean Micro-Steam Bags: Lifesavers! This makes cleaning + sanitizing much easier. Works perfect for the bottles + pump parts. You can use each bag 20 times!
Boon Grass and Stem and Twig: After I dump out the steam, I can easily dump the parts onto this + then organize them. It’s the perfect drying rack for all the bottle + pump parts.
Simple Wishes Hands Free Breastpump Bra: I really love this one. It is adjustable, so it can change as your breasts do.
Lansinoh Disposable Nursing Pads: I had no idea that my boobs would leak so much. Haha! Such a glamorous new mom life 😉 These have worked perfectly to keep my bra + clothes dry.
Medela Tender Care Lanolin Tube: I tried a couple brands + this is my favorite! I really like how easily it glides on.
My Brest Friend Original Nursing Pillow: I love that this clips onto me + it allows us to get into good position for Max to nurse!
Graco Pack ‘n Play : Maxwell slept in the bassinet part in our room for the first 3 weeks of life. Our pediatrician recommended that it would be great for all of us if he transferred into the crib! I have to be honest I spilled tears the first night, but now it is part of our routine!
Baby Monitor and Receiver: Cheaper than other video options + it gets the job done! I easily wake up when Max is crying + it’s nice to be able to see him. I can tell by his non-verbals when he is about to really start crying hard + needing to eat vs. if he is stirring. It also had 2 settings, we are on the less sensitive one because he makes lots of noises in his sleep that we don’t necessarily need to know about 🙂
Boppy Newborn Lounger: Max loves this! We actually have 2, one for upstairs + one for downstairs. It’s really nice because we can put him wherever we are.
Fisher-Price Newborn Auto Rock ‘n Play Sleeper: We love this for nap time! He typically naps really well in this as it continues to rock him.
Carter’s 2 pk Swaddle Blanket: We love these swaddles because they are a little thicker than the muslin ones, which works well for our active little babe.
On the Go
BOB 2016 Revolution FLEX Stroller: We love, love, love this stroller. It is the one that we most often utilize as it is smoother than our Chico stroller. I cannot wait to try running with it!
BOB 2016 Single Infant Car Seat Adapter for Chicco: Since we have a Chicco carseat we needed this adapter. Super easy to use.
Chicco Bravo Trio Travel System: The Keyfit system is super nice. You just make sure you hear the two clicks + you are good to go.
Milk Snob Cover: We use this all the time to keep Max covered up while on the go + during breastfeeding! It’s nice because it keeps people from staring at his cuteness + wanting to touch him. We want his immune system to grow a little more before he is exposed to stranger germs! 😉
Max essentially lived in ZIPPER long sleeve onesies to start. We just wanted to make sure he was warm enough + we were constantly changing diapers. Zipper onesies are easier + faster than buttons or anything that goes over his head.
I’m excited to share an interview tomorrow! Stop back to check that out + have a great start to your week!