Hi all! I hope that your week is going well 🙂
I’m excited for the blog post today because I absolutely love this subject.
It is also perfect timing for me personally, as I’ve been leaning on the people closest to me lately. As many of you know, my full-time job is being a night-shift oncology nurse. I’ve talked about how heavy the job is before and it has been especially hard lately. On top of that, my body seems to be rejecting the night-shift schedule. I’m just not able to sleep very well during the day anymore and that has lead to me being more stressed and reactionary, I’m not at my best when I’m going off 5 hours of sleep. It all built up and ended with me in a puddle of tears at work the other night. I’m sharing this to be vulnerable and let you know that I need this post too right now.
Surround Yourself: The People Around You Matter
Motivational speaker Jim Rohn put it like this: “You’re the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with.” I found this quote to be very interesting, and read this article on Entrepreneur.com. I did the exercise they recommended and wrote down the 5 people that I’m around the most. Although, for me I included some people I don’t physically see all the time…but, I talk to them often and they have an impact on my mindset. After my list was complete, I went down the list and ranked them on a scale of 0 to 10 with 10 being the most positive influence possible. I then calculated the average. I would highly encourage you to do the same.
How is your team looking? Those around you should elevate you to be better and more positive. Remember, you aren’t doing this to be critical of people around you…you are doing it as an exercise to see the type of influences that surround you.
Here are other main points that the article made after the exercise:
Consider how you would rank: If those closest to you did the same exercise, how would you rank? Are you a positive and inspiring influence in their life? Or are you always the one with a problem and complaint? I loved this quote: “Most great relationships are symbiotic, whereby people bring out the best in one another.” You could even take the next step and discuss this with your closest people. As I mentioned in the previous blog post, Drew and I spent time discussing our relationship in relation to this topic over lunch. We found it to be a positive and beneficial talk.
With this being said, we’re all going to go through tough times or patches that we need those close to us to listen and understand our hardship and complaints. When the work situation I mentioned above happened, one of my co-workers stepped in and was a huge support. She just listened, rubbed my back, and said a prayer over me. I can tell she is the most comforting nurse for her patients 🙂 Drew also has been tremendous lately during this stressful patch. The great thing about relationships is the next time he needs me to be the positive and strong one, I’ll be there for him.
Be open to change: Over the years, the 5 closest people may evolve. It is only natural that you might have a different 5 then you did in high school. If your average is lower than you expected, you also may need some more positive people in your life. No one is asking you to do a friend dump, but have an open heart to new people. Have a co-worker or a mat neighbor at yoga that you find inspiring? Spend more time with them. Over the past two years, I’ve met some awesome and inspiring women. If I weren’t open to cultivating new friendships, I would’ve missed out big time.
People around us influence our relationship with self: If you missed the Love Yourself blog, I went into more detail about this point. “Ultimately, we have to take responsibility. We’re the ones that make the decision on the voices we’re going to listen to and agree with, and the ones we are going to push out and disagree with.” If the people around you are constantly making you feel negative about yourself…maybe a change is in order.
As I mentioned, I love this subject. This might be because I have very positive and inspiring people around me. If this exercise provides a tougher result for you, I hope that you see if as something that can change.
I hope everyone has a terrific weekend! 🙂 Ames