Hi friends! Happy Tuesday!
I’ve came to find there is one subject that blog readers continually love: anything about positivity. After researching these subjects, it comes as no surprise. Americans have big issues when it comes to keeping a healthy and positive mindset.
I was inspired by the book that I continue to mention Leave Better Than Found which can be purchased in paperback here.
Taylor Jannsen writes about energy givers and energy takers. “Are there people in your life that automatically liberate you with their presence? Are there others that do the exact opposite; make you feel small or drain your enthusiasm with negativity?”
I can automatically think of people that I get really excited to see because 98% of the time they have a warm smile and positivity about them, their presence is immediately liberating. A person that comes to mind is my co-worker Courtney. You just feel better when you are working with her. I can also easily think of people that I feel drained by as soon as I’m around them. They always have something negative to say and it probably takes them 5 minutes to start in on it.
Taylor went on to write about the qualities of each, which are essentially opposite in energy givers vs. energy takers. I won’t share his whole book, but I will take the time to share a few that stuck out to me.
Energy givers believe their lives are generally good, while energy takers believe life is miserable and that they are never able to “catch a break”. Energy givers are able to keep a positive mental attitude, even when they are presented with situations or obstacles that make that challenging. Energy takers believe that there is always something going wrong in their life. They are constantly complaining without being a part of the solution.
This would be a great time to take a minute to reflect: do you think you are an energy giver or energy taker? In your work place, in your group of friends, in your relationship…are you giving energy or taking it? Are you always the one with a complaint? Is it a balance? If you are unsure, you should ask the people closest to you. Just be ready for a truthful response.
You might imagine that I could easily say I’m a giver, just given the nature of the blog. This part of the book really gave me pause and reflection. I certainly know that I’m a positive person, but are there area in my life where I could improve? Absolutely. Work was the first place that came to mind for me. In nursing we all give so much to our patients and the patient’s family, that it is hard to continue that energy giving process when it comes to colleagues. But, if everyone on the work team is being an energy taker where does that leave the team? Probably with decreased morale and enthusiasm, as well as increased negativity. I had to stop and think…Am I being part of the solution? I talked over this self-reflection with my husband and was easily able to come up with areas that I could improve in at work. We also talked about how much energy and positivity each one of us brings into our marriage. One thing I really value about our marriage is that we’re able to have raw conversations like this and able to take the feedback as well intended. This is what it takes to improve any relationship you are in.
Here is the thing: nobody has the ability to be 100% positive and always energy giving. Eventually, even the most positive people need someone to pick them up. There are going to be times of struggle and hardship. You certainly don’t want to be the only energy giver in the group when you are the one going through a tough time. This is why it is important to look around you and see who you are surrounding yourself with. I’m going to expand on this topic on Thursday. 🙂
Lastly, I wanted to comment on all the feedback I received from the last blog post. As a blogger, there are times where I’m not exactly sure if a topic will resonate with my blog readers. Finance is one of those sticky topics, a topic that I used to not enjoy myself. I’m not sure if people with skip right past it or read it. I was surprised to receive SO much positive feedback. It opened up conversations all around me about student loans, savings accounts, credit card debt, etc. I was overjoyed! That was the hope of that post, that people would start thinking about their habits and where they could improve.
Have a terrific start to the week! Love, Ames