Hi friends! Happy Thursday.
A couple personal notes to start today. I’m taking full advantage of my stretch off of work! I was able to get a long run in with my running partner, spend time with my sister and niece, catch an amazing Wisconsin Basketball game with my husband and friend, see our little babe in another ultrasound (no worries, Baby K just wouldn’t cooperate in the right position during the last ultrasound), and share a delicious meal and conversation with our church group. Today I’m headed to lunch to catch up with a friend and her little man and tonight dating my husband. When you are a nurse or in another position that works on the weekends, you have to make it feel like your weekend during your off stretch which probably ends up during the week. This is a little bit challenging– as most people are at work, but it will keep your happiness levels higher than if you just do housework and errands. Finding a balance and investing in your relationships will pay dividends.
I hope you have noticed the increase in blogging. I’m very passionate about the message that this blog is conveying: one of health and positivity. The beginning of pregnancy + the combination of night-shift made for a very sleepy blogger during the first trimester. Now that I’m nearly to the end of my second (ah! so exciting), I have a lot more energy to keep up with the tasks of the blog. I love hearing feedback about how this blog inspired someone to eat better or get their workout in and that keeps me going. A huge thank you to those that continue to read and reach out.
Not a simple subject today, but one that I found to be very fitting. For one, my last church sermon was about this. You can watch/listen to it here if you are interested. I would highly recommend it! I’ve heard that it received a very strong reaction. A lot of people realized that they do not show themselves enough or any love. For another, I thought this was perfect after Brit’s interview. It’s amazing that she lost 22.3 pounds, but I found her change in mindset and perspective to be the thing that really stuck out to me as her friend.
The relationship we have with ourselves is SO important. I’m going to ask a few questions and elaborate on them afterward. Take pause at the questions and answer them honestly, especially if loving yourself is a challenge for you. You won’t know where you have to improve unless you take stock of where you are at. Also, realize that this is an area in which you can grow and improve in. Your mind can be trained just like a muscle.
Does that voice more positive or more negative?
It’s our own voice that we hear the most each and everyday. And we typically believe our own. If you are constantly telling yourself negative things, if you haven’t already you will start to believe them. If you catch yourself going down a negative thought train, pause and find a positive.
How do you talk to yourself?
A lot of the time we are way more critical of ourselves than we are of others. We say things to ourselves that we would never say out loud to anyone else (or at least I hope you wouldn’t). I’m so fat, I’m so stupid, I cannot believe I made that mistake…no one else would make that mistake. If you wouldn’t say it to someone else, you have to love yourself enough to not say it to yourself.
A personal example of how I had to train myself to think positively is my pregnancy body image. When my sister or friends were pregnant, I showered them with compliments and meant them! I think pregnancy and baby bumps are so beautiful. When my own body started to expand, especially when my regular clothes stopped fitting I would sometimes look in the mirror and think I look so big today. People also apparently have free rein during pregnancy to say anything they want about how big or small you look for where you are in your pregnancy (I want to do an entire blog on how to talk to pregnant people as a PSA). When I start to say something negative to myself or someone else makes a negative comment, I make a very quick change in my mind to my positive pregnancy manta: Your baby is growing. He or she is getting bigger and stronger by the day, getting ready to come out and meet you. You are eating well, you are exercising, your baby is healthy! For me, that makes everything better. It truly works and I use positive self-talk all day everyday about this and other subjects.
Are you letting others change your perspective on yourself?
I loved this quote from the sermon, “Ultimately, we have to take responsibility. We’re the ones that make the decision on the voices we’re going to listen to and agree with, and the ones we are going to push out and disagree with.”
A perfect example of this for me is my nursing career. When I was a new nurse, I took everything the oncoming shift or more experienced nurses said to heart. I could easily read their nonverbal communication and tell by their tone when they thought I should’ve known the answer to a question, should’ve finished a task, or if they thought that I missed something. The problem is when people make you feel a certain way without giving you constructive feedback. Now that I have built confidence in my own nursing practice, it makes this situation different. When an oncoming nurse gives me those same nonverbals or acts uninterested in my report, I don’t take it to heart. I let it go the moment I walk out of the room and I don’t let it change my perspective on my ability.
It is my hope for you that you are loving on yourself. Talking to yourself kindly and letting positive mantas run through your head. Negativity and bullying ourselves doesn’t help anything, so we might as well find a way to be positive.
Have a great rest of the week and weekend! Love, Ames