Happy Thursday! I’m finishing this blog up at a coffee shop. I just came from an OB appointment (love hearing the heartbeat of our baby every single time) and I’m waiting for my husband to come meet me on his lunch break. I just wanted to take pause and be so very grateful for this day.
I’ve been spending a lot of my cardiovascular training time on the stair-climber. At 22 weeks, running is not the most comfortable with the extra weight on my front end and I appreciate that the stair-climber can get my heart-pumping just as well. While on the stair-climber I either need to flip through a magazine or watch a TV show, so I’m not watching the minutes tick by. Recently, I read an article in Glamour that lead to this blog.
It was entitled “How to Turn Off Your Bitch Switch” (sorry for the aggressive title 😉 ) and it had several strategies to reset your mind at times when patience and kindness is not about to come out of your mouth. They had some really great strategies for a quick reset and I’ll share my favorites and elaborate on them a little bit.
- No skipping breakfast or working straight though lunch. When our glucose levels go low, we are way more quick to anger and annoyance. Our slang term for it now a days is “hangry” (hungry + angry). Glamour cited this study from Ohio State University: “lower levels of blood sugar may make married people angrier at their spouses and even more likely to lash out aggressively, new research reveals.” Yikes! Next time your significant other is irrationally lashing out, hand them a banana 🙂 In all seriousness, if we’re skipping meals or going too long between them we are not the best version of ourselves. Make sure to fuel your body right.
- Prioritize your zzz’s. I’ve written many times about the importance of sleep including this blog Focus on Your Foundation: Sleep. Among many other negative health impacts, inadequate sleep leads people to be more emotionally reactionary. This is me! I know many people are incredibly busy and wearing several hats, but take pause to see if you have room for improvement. I’ll drop this quote right here:
“The irony of it all is that many of us are suffering from sleep deprivation so we can work more, but the drop in performance ruins any potential benefits of working additional hours.”-James Clear
Are you watching extra TV before bed instead of turning your mind and the lights off? Are you scrolling all the way down Instagram for an extra half hour? Are you on a bender of Homeland and need to watch just one more episode? Most of us could probably agree we could find some more sleep, even an extra half hour would work.
- Go outside! Total mood booster. Even just a ten minute walk has been shown to improve your mood and productivity. It is a perfect way to switch gears, and then you can come back and with a refreshed attitude. If you work in a hospital during nightshift and cannot just “go outside”, even taking a walk off your unit or finding a quiet space to just be by yourself can really do wonders.
- Wait to reply. This one is not from the article, but from Leave Better Than Found the book by Taylor Jannsen that I just highlighted on the blog. He has a 24 hour rule, where his players and player’s parents have to wait for 24 hours before contacting him with issues regarding playing time or something else that upset them. “So often we are vulnerable to lashing out immediately and reacting in a manner that is only detrimental to ourselves, the other person or any other person involved in a conflict.” If we lash out, it is highly likely that the other person will also have a charged reaction and now we’ve entered into conflict. He finds the time buffer allows people to come with a more rationale approach toward the situation and the communication. There have been plenty of times where I type an email or text message, only to erase it. My immediate reaction is to be angry, frustrated, or sassy…but, I know I need time. Given time I can typically come with a more positive reply 🙂
I hope these tip help, they were great reminders for me! Drew + I were just talking and strategizing last night about striving to become more loving and patient people in all our interactions, to be more Christ like.
Have a great day! -Ames