Happy Tuesday friends! If you missed the Busy Blogger post, I mentioned that I’m going to be posting on Tuesdays/Thursdays moving forward. Thank you ALL for the support and the continued readership. I cannot wait to keep on sharing more about health + wellness and balance.
If you follow me on Instagram, you had a little sneak preview of this post.
A week and a half ago my husband celebrated his 5 year anniversary at his job. Congrats Drew! 😉 I’ve had the pleasure of watching him grow personally + professionally over the last 5 years, and I’m incredibly thankful for his hard-work and loyalty.
His work anniversary just happens to align with the yearly summer cookout that the company he works for hosts. For the past 4 years I’ve been by his side at the summer cookout, and every year we take the opportunity to sneak away and take a walk around a path.
During the walk our conversation is a reflection of the past year and excitement for the next. It is crazy to think back to the first walk, I was just about to head back to nursing school and he was just getting established at his company. Together we dreamed about what our future held, and understood that with me going back to school the next couple years were going to be challenging. As I became closer to finishing school our conversations each year started turning to getting engaged, getting married, buying a house, and where we saw our careers going.
We talk about individual goals and we talk about our team goals. This year we spent a lot of the time being thankful for how far we’ve come together. We have accomplished all of those things and are excited about new dreams.
I wanted to write this post to make a couple points.
1) You need a plan, not just a dream. As a person with a type B personality, I still see the importance of having a plan in life. When it came to nursing school I had a plan– I knew exactly what I needed to do. I mapped out each application deadline, knew what “plan B” was, I gained employment as a nursing assistant, worked hard in my prerequisites (aka going to every College Chemistry 2 teaching assistant session), I sought advice from people that had completed the program that I was applying to, talked on the phone to the program adviser several times, took the TEAS V (a test to get into nursing school) once and then again to see if I could improve my score, submitted everything on time, and prepared for the interviews. When I was in the program I worked my butt off. When the light was finally at the end of the tunnel and I was ready to start applying for jobs I asked a friend’s wife if she would go out to coffee with me to give me advice on the nurse residency program that she had done. Another time I called a friend of a friend on the phone to ask her about the unit she worked on because it was the one I was the most interested in to make sure it was a good fit. Preparation came up during the interview and when I mentioned I had spoken with Amy about the unit and the challenges of a first year nurse, our nurse manager was very impressed that I took this initiative. Here is my point: You cannot expect your dreams and goals to fall into your lap. You need to do things that might be out of your comfort zone in order to get to where you want to go. One of my life mottos is “what is the worst thing that could happen?!” Would it have been a big deal if Amanda or Amy weren’t willing to do coffee or talk on the phone…no. I’m SO thankful that both were more than willing, very friendly, and beyond helpful. I knew the risk of feeling a little awkward asking a favor of people that I didn’t know very well was way smaller than the potential benefit. Get out of your comfort zone! What are you holding yourself back from? Do you know what you need to do to get there? Are you dreaming of something but not taking any tangible steps toward it? Be honest, do you have any goals written down right now or are they just thoughts?
Heck, shoot me an email and we can set up a phone call if you want to talk about the UW- Oshkosh Accelerated Program, UW Hospital, or AdvoCare…you’ve got an advocate in me 🙂
2) Be excited about your future. Each year Drew + I have things that we are looking forward to. It doesn’t always have to be as big as getting married or purchasing our first home. We get extremely excited to pay off my student loans, like oddly excited. Drew + I have literally high-fived, chest bumped, and started cheering when we pay off another loan. Aside from paying over on the monthly payment, we’re focused on paying off individual loans in their entirety each quarter. Getting out of student loan debt is exciting + freeing, and we’re going to celebrate the small victories along the way. What are you looking forward to? Again, we have a very specific and written down timeline for the loans…meaning these victories don’t come without preparation. I feel like I’m going very J.J. Watt on you today, if you don’t get that metaphor he is a very driven and hardworking NFL football player and you can google loads of quotes about hard-work from him. His work ethic by all accounts is one of the strongest in the NFL, if not the strongest. He happened to go to my high school and seeing him succeed has been great. Here is one of his quotes: “Success isn’t owned. It’s leased and rent is due every day.” -J.J. Watt. I’d argue for some off days 😉
3) Things aren’t always going to go according to plan. Life is not easy. There are going to be challenges that we are going to face and have to overcome in order to get where we want to go. People are going to doubt you, question you, and question your intentions. You have to hold strong. For me, part of holding strong is knowing the why behind what I’m doing. If your why is strong enough, you aren’t going to get shaken by some failure or missteps along the way.
4) Take time to enjoy. This is my favorite point of the day 😉 If you are working hard towards a goal/dream, you need to enjoy the journey. Meaning, you do need some BALANCE. Although we have a ways to go on my student loans, we make sure to schedule exciting events along the way. We’re headed to Chicago in a couple weekends to celebrate my birthday and the beginning of the Packers season by going to their first game at Solider Field. This reward has fueled us. We each have separate trips with our friends coming up this fall, this reward has fueled us too. Don’t get so busy that you forget to stop, be thankful, and enjoy.
I hope you are having a terrific week. This post inspired me to keep my TV turned off and start studying…I hope it stirred something in you too. -Ames