Happy Monday! With so much talk about love this past week, I wanted to touch on a very special and important relationship: the one you have with yourself.
Do me a favor: grab a piece of paper and a pen. Now, write down 3 things that you love about your body. Next 3 things that you love about yourself.
How did it go? It should be easyyyy!
I guarantee your best-friend, sister, husband, mom, boyfriend, co-workers could do it for you. Can you?
As many of you know, my full-time job is a nurse. I work on a floor that is about 90% women. Often I hear people criticizing themselves and their bodies. Why are we so hard on ourselves? A lot of us critique ourselves a lot harder than we ever would our friends.
I told my co-worker that she had to read this post because it was for her. Every time she talks about her body negatively I tell her to stop! 😉
Seriously stop! You are BEAUTIFUL, STRONG, SMART, FUNNY. You are the only you.
Negative thinking and self-criticism doesn’t get us anywhere. Instead, try to train your brain to reprogram the thoughts.
Positive thinking often begins with self-talk. It’s the constant stream of unspoken thoughts that run through our heads. These thoughts can be positive, negative, or neutral. They can be reasonable and rational, or completely irrational. Something cool is that we can train ourselves to become more positive!
Here are a few practical tips that you can start right away:
- Don’t say anything to yourself that you wouldn’t be willing to say to someone else. If you wouldn’t call someone else fat, or say that their butt is huge (I really hope you wouldn’t)…don’t say it about yourself. If a negative thought does enter your mind, stop and think about it rationally. Next, think a positive thought.
- Follow a healthy lifestyle. This builds confidence and makes it easier to be positive in all aspects of your life. If you missed the post about the Feel Better Phenomenon read it!
- Surround yourself by positive people. This is a key to life. People either encourage you + support you, or they can try to suck the wind out of your sails. Learn to surround yourself with people that are positive and it will pay dividends in the way you think and handle stressful situations. I would be remiss not to give a shout-out to my friends, family, and husband. I’m lucky to have such positive people in my life, thank you dearly.
- Check in with yourself. There are days where my mind constantly wants to be negative. For me, it’s typically when I’m running really low on sleep. I let things get to me and I can tell I’m being a complete Negative Nancy. I check in with myself and ask what is really bothering you? I regroup by doing something I enjoy or I just take a minute to deep breath.
- Stop comparing yourself to others. This one is so important. Your mind and body are unique to you, be grateful for that! If I compared myself to every fitness blogger with a 6 pack, there wouldn’t be a BalancedAmes. I love my body and what it can do, so I don’t let comparison get in the way of being positive and happy.
I hope that you are good to you. It’s vitally important to your health and happiness. You rock! Love, Ames