What I think is interesting about some of my favorite bloggers…is that their lives look perfect. I love health + wellness blogs and fashion blogs. I have been a blog reader long before I was a blog writer. I know what type of writing and aesthetics I like because of other blogs that I was drawn to and still frequent. I also love following my favorite bloggers on Instagram. Hello BrightonTheDay and Gal Meets Glam.
Fashion bloggers, especially the one’s that have “made it”…how awesome do their lives look? They just get all of these freaking awesome clothes and then just drink lattes all day, eat amazing meals, travel all over the world, have perfect makeup all the time, and stay skinny?! At least that’s what their blog + Instagram make it look like. I’m sure their lives are pretty awesome because they have jobs that they are passionate about. But, I can guarantee it’s not as easy or glamorous as it looks.
We shouldn’t trick ourselves into thinking their lives are perfect. Same with your favorite celebrities (yes, even Beyoncé). We are human. Every single person is going to have struggle. We are each going to experience terrible loss + tragedy. Life isn’t going to be fair all the time, maybe not any of the time. We’re going to experience changes that we wish we didn’t. We’ll let friendships dwindle. We’ll be selfish. God willing, we will all get wrinkles + grays. We’ll all make a gazillion mistakes along the way.
We can all make our lives look perfect + great on our social media sites. It’s easy: don’t complain, post pictures you only look great in, untag pictures you don’t, only post when you are doing awesome stuff like going on vacation or when your significant other did something sweet. I’m for sure guilty of it. Right here, me! One wish I have for my blog is to be transparent, to be real. Of course, there is are things that I’m going to keep private for the sake of my friendships, family, and marriage. But, I wanted to share some of my shortcomings…and this list could be much longer 😉
I’ve had so much positive feedback on the blog, and have answered “do you always eat perfectly?” too many times to not dish. No. I absolutely do not eat perfectly all the time. My friends at work see me during my work week, and are usually the ones that ask. As I mentioned I try to abide by the 90/10 rule, so most people are going to see me in my 90%. But, if you catch me on a weekend I’m for sure using all of my 10%…if not a bit more 🙂 I would never hope to eat perfect + I want to have a healthy relationship with food. This means I’m not going to get anxiety from eating chocolate cake because I know I don’t do it on the daily. Sounds so good as I’m sitting here on day 6 of my Herbal Cleanse 🙂
I’ve read plenty of fitness experts/bloggers talk about being healthy on vacation. They talk about navigating their eating + how they get their workouts in. When Drew and I (along with brother Kody and sister-in-law Michelle) vacationed to Punta Cana this past winter…I would probably grade my diet a D. AND, I DON’T CARE. For me, I know that I’m focused on my health + fitness 99% of the year, so I definitely feel that I can let my hair down while on vacation. We were at an all inclusive and definitely ate and drank like it 🙂 As far as workouts, Drew and I took 1 beach run + several beach walks (we were there for a full week). That’s it! I guess I could technically include several 10 meter swims to the swim up bar. When I came back from vacation I was excited to get back to my normal routine, and was back to my normal weight by the end of that week. It felt great not to indulge for a week, and great to get back to normal.
If you Monday’s post Time Crunch you can probably tell I’m a pretty motivated individual. After posting and reflecting, I couldn’t help but think….wait, did you just make it sound like you are 100% efficient? No, no, no. I definitely take a lot of time to myself to relax, I do still take in some TV (I just don’t put them in my schedule anymore), or spend a good amount of time beating my husband in a 7 game ping-pong series. I’m all about resting/relaxing (at the time of this draft I just got out of bed after 13 hours).
Additionally, one of my flaws during a busy stretch of work: my housekeeping skills. I will say it! I prioritize my sleeping + working out + seeing Drew if I can during a busy 12 hour stretch of nights…and the dishes + my side of the master sink (make-up just left out) + my laundry room (picture piles of scrubs + workout clothes) definitely can tell. Truthfully, I know a lot of my friends are in the neat freak zone…which is cool + feel free to come over and clean. If the laundry has to wait until an off day, that doesn’t bother me.
Posting on the positive. Not a whole heck of a lot truly does bother me, so I’m not ever going to post about being stuck in traffic or how the weather sucks (I mean if you live in Wisconsin and haven’t figure out that baseline we are going to have weird shifts in weather…you confuse me). When bad things happen, I don’t automatically think to take them to the FB or Instagram. Of course, bad/hard things do happen to me + Drew. This past year, on Christmas Eve we were so excited to head to our church and then get some quality time in with both of our families. It was super exciting because as a nurse you don’t always get holidays with your family. Well, God had other plans for us and Drew’s dad had a heart attack on Christmas Eve…immediately we headed to Drew’s hometown. On Christmas Day we spent about 12 hours in the hospital as he had to undergo open heart surgery. It was traumatic, it was hard, it was stressful, it was so sad to miss the holidays with my family of our family (for the first time) + see Drew’s side of our family in such a painful time. His dad is still recovering and working on getting stronger. I’m sharing this story is just my way of trying to show you that life is going to give you hard times, and you are going to have to figure out how to get through them. Some people find posting on it cathartic (which is totally cool), and some people prefer to lean on those closest to you and keep plugging until you get through it (also cool + definitely my husband’s style).
Drew and I have a very strong marriage. I would be the first one to sing his praises, he is one amazing man. I post pictures of him all the time because he is so darn adorable + we truly are so happy + he is my number one human. But, when our friends + family think we’re a perfect couple (it feels weird to even type that)…that’s not true. It’s not true for anyone. Being in a relationship is a lot of give and take. You are going to have disagreements, you might even yell on a bad day (whoops). If I had to guess the biggest problem Drew has with me is my lack of planning. He tells me I live my life all “Willy Nilly” (which I didn’t know was an actual saying). He is a planner, a real type A. I’m really motivated in some areas of my life, but I definitely am resistant to super planned weekend days. This is going to be one of our struggles for the rest of our lives because it doesn’t look like either of us can/should change or reprogram our personalities.
Getting caught up in comparison. Don’t do it. Easier said than done, right? I do it too! Wouldn’t it be such a life upgrade if Drew would let me/us get a puppy? Well, yes…I think so. But, I cannot force Drew to get a puppy until he is more ready to be a puppy parent and I want him to be very happy too 🙂 He told me I needed to chill out, which I think is valid after I told him “you don’t want to ruin my dreams do you”. haha, sorry babe. It’s the same as scrolling down Facebook and seeing all of your friends getting promotions, engaged, married, having babies, getting puppies, going to a place you’ve always wanted to go, moving to place you want to move, buying houses etc. etc. We need to focus on our own blessings, and realize that life is not a race. Do you own things on your own time, or if you have another person to compromise with…don’t push them into something they aren’t ready for. Be patient with yourself and others. Yes, there are things we can work hard for + go out and get…but, some can’t be forced.
Just some thoughts, I’m more than positive my friends + family + husband could come up with more 🙂 I always check with Drew to make sure he is cool with the blog post, just in case you were wondering. He has been incredibly supportive + enjoying reading each blog.
I hope that everyone has an incredible weekend! I’m off of work + am excited to race CrazyLegs (a local Madison race) with a huge group of girlfriends! It’s going to be so great to see everyone + girl out this weekend.